(Closed) How to handle nosy questions?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
1188 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Just say “Fine”.  If they ask more questions, change the subject.  Usually, I just say something like “I don’t really want to discuss that, how’s your daughter’s dance lessons coming?” Just refocus on something entirely separate.


I’ve had a lot of issues this pregnancy and it’s gotten to where I don’t tell anyone in real life any thing.  I just change the subject.  If someone gets pushy, I look at them directly and firmly say “I’m sorry, but that is none of your business”.  


Post # 4
1576 posts
Bumble bee

Ugh, how can they be judgemental when it was your doctor who wanted you to start leave? If anyone asks, I would just say that unfortunately your doctor wanted you to start leave early and then change the subject. Sorry to hear that people are being judgemental!

Post # 6
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m usually ok with being a little more specific, so would probably just say “My doctor and I decided that it was best for the health of myself and the baby for me to commence leave a little earlier than originally anticipated”, and then shut the door to further questions. 

Post # 7
4802 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would definitely just say that your doctor reccommended you take the leave early.  How can they argue with that?

Post # 8
1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I wouldn’t answer any questions you don’t want to.  If you provide the doctor explanation they may follow with another nosy question.  I feel you should just shut it down with “work’s fine, i’m on maternity leave.”  If they ask why I would say, it was the best decision for me and the baby.  You don’t have to justify your decisions to anyone.


Post # 9
4582 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would just be honest. I’d tell them my doctor recommended starting leave early due to blood pressure. No big deal.

I stopped working at the beginning of my third trimester because I couldn’t take the back pain. No one judged me.

Post # 10
1272 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@tnbellebee:  i would think that if you are comfortable with the decision then you shouldn’t feel any embarrassment about explaining why you are off work early (there IS a good medical reason, after all!!). So maybe you need to come to terms with it yourself a little bit?? I know I only worry what others will think about something if I’m questioning my decision myself.

I think it would be sad to be avoiding friends and family in these last few weeks just out of a fear of judgement…

(also, obviously I wasn’t there to hear the tone or accompanying conversation, but I don’t think that “Oh, I don’t see how people can do that…we just couldn’t have afforded it.” is a judgement – just a statement about their own personal circumstances…?)

Finally, I’m a teacher, and here in Aus we have to get a letter from our OB if we want to keep working past 34 weeks!!! No working up to the day before for us, and quite frankly I’m thrilled 🙂 I will try to go to 36 weeks though.

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