- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
I am really hoping for some good advise here. My older sister and I are close but not CLOSE. Meaning, when it comes to big things like holidays, births, deaths we tend to talk more than normal. I look up to her and am so excited that she is in process of planning her wedding as well, she is even being so kind as to let us reuse some of their decorations/linens.
Let me back up a sec, when I called to tell her Mr.A & I got engaged she, mid convo, springs it on me that she & her SO just got engaged as well and are planning to be wed on Nov 19th. WOW! (My poor Daddy about died! After receiving her call he literally looked at my Mom and laughingly said, “What the hell is wrong with my girls?!?”) Anyway, their venue is very formal and everything is pretty much by the book. Let me add that they both make about 4x my income, have no kids, and sometimes forget that not everyone has the ability to just runaway on weekends. That being said, I was unable to attend their engagement party & now it is looking like I will be unable to attend her bridal shower brunch. I feel horrible! As a little sister I feel like being there is my duty!
I just received and email invitation from 2 of her friends (we have no mutual friends so I don’t know these ladies) on Tuesday, they are requesting that I reply by Tuesday of this week and I just can’t seem to find the words to tell her that I can’t make it because of financial issues/inconvenient timing. And I don’t dare reply through the invitation as responses are shown to all invited parties. Its not something that I can do via text, just wouldn’t be right, yet I can’t seem to get her on the phone for more than five minutes.
I do want to add that if there were anyway that I could swing going I would, I have what was advertised and contracted as a full time job but really is nothing more than an on-call position, and the private client I was caregiving for passed away last weekend. I go in to contract with another private client tomorrow. Not kidding when I say finances are tight… an extra couple hundred dollars for her shower would kill me.
Help! Anybody have words I can use???