Post # 1
I’m not sure how to handle this. A friend of mine is expecting an invitation to my wedding, but I don’t plan on inviting her. We aren’t close anymore. She moved away for graduate school in the fall and when she came back for Christmas, she got a large group together to celebrate, but didn’t call or email me. I only know because I saw pictures on facebook. It didn’t hurt my feelings because like I said, we aren’t close. Then a week or so ago, she emailed me asking for wedding details because she is planning on coming. If we were having a large wedding, I’d just invite her and keep the peace, but we’re having a small wedding and are limited to 40 people, most of which are family and a few close friends. My husband-to-be isn’t a big fan of her’s either, for other reasons. How do I tell her that I don’t plan on inviting her?
Post # 3
You can just very politely know that you and your Fiance have decided to have a very low key immediate friends/family only event but you look forward to seeing her on her next trip to town?
Post # 4
@clemebl1: I second that. However, use this only if it’s TRULY going to be a small wedding. I know that you are not close anymore but you don’t want to use that excuse then she finds out it was a 250+ wedding 🙁
Post # 5
If you were having a large wedding maybe this would be harder but just tell her you are having an intimate wedding and your glad she would like to be there but you aren’t having a big wedding with all your friends. If you want you could add to let you know when she will be around and maybe you guys can get together.
Post # 6
Thank you. That’s what I was thinking too, but she’s definitely the type of person who does get her feelings hurt easily. I just want to be as polite as possible.
Post # 7
“We’re having a very small wedding” is all I say and people usually understand. I have a coworker who outright told me “You need to invite me!” She didn’t say it in a bitchy, demanding way. She was just really excited for me. But I give her the “small wedding” line and let her know that neither of us were inviting any coworkers and she said she’d settle for lots of pictures. 🙂