(Closed) How to handle seating a drastically uneven guest list?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If I were doing traditional seating, I would alternate seating guests on each side, I don’t think you have to sit behind the person you are friends/family of.  I would do this especially if the seating were going to be uneven.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wouldn’t 7 rows be perfect if you want to do lanterns on every other row – you’d put them at the front row, then the 3rd row, 5th row, and 7th (last) row.  Maybe I’m not understanding? 

As for the uneven number of guests problem, we have this too and I think we’ll just put immediate families at the front and everyone else can sit wherever they want.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re doing open seating too (with reserved seating for family in the front). Some of our guests are friends with both of us so it saves a lot of trouble too.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Why not just have 8 rows? Some guests might not want to sit on top of others. If there is an extra row or two, people will have space to spread out some. And as far as who has more people, ask your ushers to seat friends on the uneven side. Families will want to sit together. But, eventually, even if people are seating themselves, they’ll notice that there is more room on one side and will sit closer on that uneven side.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m going to have a similarly uneven guest list, although I’m the one with the gigantic family. What I think we’re doing is putting friends and guests on my mom’s side of the family on the groom’s side, since there will be fewer of them. My dad’s side can have the whole other half of the church. Maybe a similar solution will work for you.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I’ve never been to a wedding where the ceremony was split up between the bride’s side and the groom’s side – or, not that I was aware of anyway. There’s simply no way we could go that route even if we wanted to, because so many of our friends are friends with both of us. I really love that, actually. Our ushers will seat people as they come in order to achieve balanced sides across the aisle, and if people need to save a seat for someone then they can do so. I’m not sure I quite understand what you’re worried about with open seating; everyone should still be able to sit with whoever they want to if they arrive with them and/or just tell the usher where they’d like to be seated.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@futuremrsharless I think the 7 row idea sounds good!

I also think that the idea of just a few reserved rows and then everyone else sits wherever is fine…and it usually works out well from what I’ve experienced, even when one family has a lot more than the other

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