Post # 1
Sooo…I know that the guest list will change when we send out our Invites and get our RSVP cards but we were starting to talk about seating and all the other day and we ran into a huge problem….
Fiance has a bunch more people then I do invited. The best way we worked it out that it could work for us has caused me to only have 5 rows of people and him to have 8 rows 🙁
I am not sure how to handle this…. Fiance wants to add an extra row of seats on my side incase some unexpected people show up… or some of the girls from my work decide to come…. he then wants to put one of his rows of guests that probably wont be able to come on my side on the back…
This would give us 7 And 7 but…. I was planning to do a shepard hook with a lantern every other row….. how would I work this with 7 rows? I dont want there to not be one at the begining or end of the aisle.. This still leaves me several empty seats & it does him too just to accomodate everyone being able to sit as families
Can anyone think of a better way? or do you think this would still be ok?
Post # 3
If I were doing traditional seating, I would alternate seating guests on each side, I don’t think you have to sit behind the person you are friends/family of. I would do this especially if the seating were going to be uneven.
Post # 4
Wouldn’t 7 rows be perfect if you want to do lanterns on every other row – you’d put them at the front row, then the 3rd row, 5th row, and 7th (last) row. Maybe I’m not understanding?
As for the uneven number of guests problem, we have this too and I think we’ll just put immediate families at the front and everyone else can sit wherever they want.
Post # 5
We’re doing open seating too (with reserved seating for family in the front). Some of our guests are friends with both of us so it saves a lot of trouble too.
Post # 6
Why not just have 8 rows? Some guests might not want to sit on top of others. If there is an extra row or two, people will have space to spread out some. And as far as who has more people, ask your ushers to seat friends on the uneven side. Families will want to sit together. But, eventually, even if people are seating themselves, they’ll notice that there is more room on one side and will sit closer on that uneven side.
Post # 7
I’m going to have a similarly uneven guest list, although I’m the one with the gigantic family. What I think we’re doing is putting friends and guests on my mom’s side of the family on the groom’s side, since there will be fewer of them. My dad’s side can have the whole other half of the church. Maybe a similar solution will work for you.
Post # 8
LOL I am not sure what i was thinking about i guess i was thinking that because my rows were an odd number i wouldnt be able to have a lantern at every other row lol wow.. how did i miss that.
Well we had thought about just having open seating with a few reserved rows but i dunno i just know that some people will want to sit together or i worry about not having enough seats in one row for a family to all sit together.
I guess we will stick to just the 7 rows because that will leave still several empty seats throughout but i really just dont want to rent a bunch of extra unneeded chairs
Post # 9
I’ve never been to a wedding where the ceremony was split up between the bride’s side and the groom’s side – or, not that I was aware of anyway. There’s simply no way we could go that route even if we wanted to, because so many of our friends are friends with both of us. I really love that, actually. Our ushers will seat people as they come in order to achieve balanced sides across the aisle, and if people need to save a seat for someone then they can do so. I’m not sure I quite understand what you’re worried about with open seating; everyone should still be able to sit with whoever they want to if they arrive with them and/or just tell the usher where they’d like to be seated.
Post # 10
@futuremrsharless I think the 7 row idea sounds good!
I also think that the idea of just a few reserved rows and then everyone else sits wherever is fine…and it usually works out well from what I’ve experienced, even when one family has a lot more than the other