Post # 1
I’ve had one person ask, I’m not sure if I said the right thing, but I think she udnerstood….then I got an RSVP where the person RSVP’d her and her husband and then added +1 child…and so I need to email her and let her know, but what’s the best way to do this without pissing people off?
The honest truth is we can’t afford to accomodate everyone’s children. We’d love to have a few if we could, especially the small ones probably would make a big difference….but if you let one person bring a child then you have to invite them all and we just can’t afford it. This is a SECOND reception for us since we are having a Destination Wedding.
Thanks Bees in advance for your advice.
Post # 3
I’d be as honest as you can – tell them either space or money creates an issue. Stand firm on your decision to have no children, and keep it as a hard and fast rule so there are no hurt feelings.
Post # 4
Keep it short and simple. Saying sorry, we cannot accommodate them is perfectly fine. If you start listing reasons you could face arguments (if you cite money, they could offer to pay, ifyou citesolace, they could claim that kids don’t take up much space).
Post # 5
As usual, I agree with @futuremrsfitz18
Don’t give them an explanation (they aren’t owed one).
I’m sorry that won’t be possible is short and too the point.
You: Hi Aunt Bertha, I noticed that on your RSVP you indicated that little Timmy would be coming. Unfortunately, there seems to have been a misunderstanding. It won’t be possible to include him.
Her: But Timmy loves weddings
You: I’m sorry that won’t be possible
Her: But we can’t get child care
You: I’m sorry, but it won’t be possible.
Her: But he is surgically attached to my breast
You: I’m sorry it won’t be possible. Fritz and I hope you can still make it. Hope to see you there. Got to go, the cat’s on fire.
Post # 6
We have a wedding website with FAQ’s.
What about kids?
We would like to celebrate our love, and the love between the couples we consider close to us. We hope this would be one for our guests to enjoy a date night with their significant other and with us. Given that this is a formal, late-night event with drinking, dancing and adult merry-making, we are not inviting children apart from those in our bridal party.
Post # 7
@Buboys_Gurl: Love this! I may have to add it to our website! 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks, I do have anote on our webstie, I guess now just trying to find the words to those who already assume they can bring little jessica…or little timmy
The reception is an evening one, not sure why people wouldnt want to try and find a sitter.
Post # 9
I would just stick with “Unfortunately, we cannot accommodate children.”
If they ask further: “I’m sorry, but we cannot accommodate children.” Repeat as necessary.
Post # 10
Instead of just saying no kids allowed, we tried to give it a more positive spin by saying that this is their chance to go out and have fun without the kids in tow.
Post # 11
@Buboys_Gurl: Genius! I am totally borrowing this idea.
Post # 12
I don’t think there is a best way you can do it without pissing people off. Some people get it and others don’t. Fiance has a huge family and they are extremely close so I couldn’t do no kids. In the FAQ section of our page I indicated that we were only able to extend an invitation to kids in our immediate family. People that will be invited that have kids, I gave them a heads up before they saw the page that we couldn’t accomodate kids outside the family. No one thus far as had a problem with it.