This also popped into my head…
I never, ever read tabloids, but I remember hearing this on the radio a while ago. It’s stuck in my head ever since, and I just found the article.
I have never personally tried this on someone, but I can honestly admit that it’s been used on me. I’m pretty openly snarky, and I sometimes come across as malicious instead of sarcastic. I had a coworker a few years ago privately approach me, and in the nicest way possible, say:
“thefuturemrs- why are you mean to me? I’m really sorry if I did anything, but I don’t want you to dislike me.”
I felt like a DOUCHE. Man, it was awful. And as the mean girl, I curbed my behaviour then and there. If she’s ever rude to you in a group, just ask it on the spot in front of everybody. If she’s just being cold in general, try following her into the ladies room next time you’re out in a group together, and just sweetly confront her there. It’s a bold move that completely puts you on the spot.
This is the article:
Self-titled “Queen of All Media” Perez Hilton was, until not long ago, quite a potty-mouth and a bully on his blog, no celebrity was safe from him. All that changed last year – but not before Jennifer Aniston had a talk with him.
The actress recently taped an appearance on Ellen DeGeneres and, among other things, she also talked about what she made of Perez’s promise to play nice and stop being a bully, the Huffington Post reports.
Somewhat surprisingly, Aniston revealed that she actually talked to Perez face to face about that right before he made said announcement, also on Ellen.
As celebrity gossip lovers must know, Jen was one of the easiest targets for the blogger: “MANiston” was the least offending way in which he used to call her.
“I ran into Perez Hilton in a garage. One of those moments you just never expect to happen. I had finished dinner with a girlfriend and we were driving out and I saw this tall, long, lean person and I say, ‘Who is that?’ And she says, ‘I think that’s Perez Hilton’,” Aniston recalled.
The moment she learned who he was, she knew he had to confront him for his behavior and, at the very least, get an explanation for why he was acting that way.
“I said, ‘No. I have to say something to him. I have to.’ So I pulled up and we were sort of scoping each other out as I was pulling the car up. I just rolled down the window and I was like, ‘Hi.’ And he went, ‘Hi’,” Jen said.
“We stood there like two deer in headlights. And I just said, ‘Come here. Just talk to me for a second.’ It was one of those great moments. It was a lovely meeting and I was just like, ‘Why are you so mean?’” the actress explained.
Whatever Perez’s answer was, shortly after the meeting, he decided he wanted to be nice, a decision Aniston salutes and commends, especially since the blogger has proved he’s good for his word.