- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
My sister, who is also my Maid/Matron of Honor, is planning my shower, which is just about 2 months away. A few weeks ago, I sent around a guest list to my mother and Future Mother-In-Law for their approval. I waited until I got both mothers to give me the thumbs up before sending the list to my sister. My sister is planning a luncheon for me at a pretty fancy restaurant, and since my other bridesmaids aren’t in a financial position to help, she is paying for it on her own. So I was also trying to keep the guest count down (in the 30 ballpark) to be considerate of her finances.
Last night, I got an email from Future Mother-In-Law that she had talked to her mom (fiance’s grammy), and that Grammy’s cousin and family friend are looking forward to the shower and intend on coming. Grammy’s cousin and family friend were not originally on the guest list. Apparently Grammy is gossipping about wedding events to people assuming they are invited to everything. While these two are invited to the wedding, we hadn’t anticipated inviting them to the shower and such. I am glad she is excited about everything, but its putting me in an awkward position. I am not planning the shower, my sister is, and as far as we were concerned the guest list had been finalized. I am hoping my sister doesn’t mind adding these two people and I will gladly help financially if its putting her over where she thought she’d be, but I also don’t want to offend my sister by suggesting she bit off more than she can chew. But I also don’t want to offend these two guests because it would be blantantly obvious now if they don’t get an invitation!
My sister was planning on sending the invites out today. I told Future Mother-In-Law that I will check with my sister, and asked her to please talk to Grammy about the gossip so we don’t have any more unanticipated adds and don’t offend anyone. I just can’t help feeling like a bridezilla chastizing Grammy and Future Mother-In-Law when they are just excited for it. But I feel like if I don’t put my foot down, things will spiral out of control and become out of budget and impossible to plan for.
Has anyone else encountered this? Is 30-35 guests unrealistic? How did you handle telling people to shut their mouths?