Post # 1
It seems like the best time for my FI and I to get married will be the month after I finish grad school (because of job stuff). I am already not that into wedding planning, and to do it during grad school makes me even less invested in it. We are both very laid back people and want a wedding that isn’t a lot of fuss, but is still fun and classy. We also very sociable and have lots of friends and family. It seems like one of the first things people do to make a wedding a little more sane is cut the guest list, but that’s the one area we want to keep. That is the source of the wedding mayhem though, because once you ask 100 people to come from whereever to go to it, you want to make sure you feed them well, give them a good experience, etc etc etc…
Any tips or suggestions of overall wedding styles or approaches to have a down-to-earth wedding with about 100 guests? Thinking something fun and worth the effort for us and the guests, w/o a blowout of planning and spending.
Thank you bees!
Post # 2
You could think about a cocktail reception instead of a sit down reception. Would be more laid back and you would be able to mingle more with guests.
Post # 3
Well the real key to “no fuss” seems to be hiring people to fuss for you!
I would look for an all inclusive type place where you don’t have to worry about linens or chairs or bringing in a catering staff.
I’m planning my wedding from 3 hrs away, so we decided on a clambake/BBQ deal at a place that does them. They set up, cook, clean up, and we could even have the ceremony there.
Post # 4
My advice is to focus on the things that will help you and your guests have a fun time, and forget the rest.
My husband and I are low key people, and I wanted to have a fun, easy and simple wedding, so that’s what we did. I planned most of it myself, with help from my Mom and bridesmaids. We focused on the things I thought were important, good food, good music and a full bar. Everything else was very minimal, we had only basic decorations, our reception was held in a local hall, I did my own hair and makeup, we had only four attendants total, etc. We hosted 200 guests and everyone had a blast. The day was so stress free and fun for everyone. I got to talk with all my family and friends, dance up a storm, and not worry about all the extra details that would have come with a fancier affair. Not to mention the costs. We spent just under $13,000 for everything. It’s been six months and I still get comments about how much people enjoyed our wedding.
Really I think it’s all about planning the wedding you want and not worrying about other’s expectations. As long as you feed your guests and provide a good atmosphere your guests will enjoy themselves. They only time I really felt stressed when planning was when I felt like I had to live up to some imaginary standard. Once I got over that it was pretty smooth sailing, and I wouldn’t change a thing.
Post # 5
Luckyshot is spot on. My focus for my wedding was for guests to have a goodtime. I considered location, food, music, and the bar to be the most important. We had our wedding in summer at an outdoor venue that allowed us to bring our own alcohol and choose whatever caterer/food serving situation we wanted (even DIY). We ended up DIYing the appetizers.
Your guests are going to have fun if they feel comfortable, are well fed, and there’s a full bar. Plus larger weddings allow you to invite groups of friends, and when a lot of people know eachother, there automatically going to be more comfortable.
No guest is going to remember if you had chargers, or chivari chairs, or upgraded linens, etc. We had none of those, and people had a blast, danced all night, and still comment on how much fun they had.
Post # 6
chillinchillin: Everything PPs said. I had over 100 guests, sit down and buffet, caterers included linens, plates, silverware a, a DJ, a photographer, open bar. You know what I didn’t have? chandeliers, flowers, STDs, runners, a bridal party, Chiavari chairs, pro makeup, getaway car, designer dress. My centerpieces were DIY and the majority of guests took them home. Cost was a little under $7K (not including tips) in, wait for it… NJ! Our friends and family still talk about how much fun they had. Keep your guests entertained and fed and they’ll be happy.
Post # 7
Just don’t get excessive things and you can plan a very nice and modest wedding. Find a place that allows you to bring in yoir own booze (seriously, most places were going to charge upwards of $25 per person even for people who don’t drink. We were able to find a place that allowed us to bring in our own booze and ended up spending about $5 a person). Don’t get a limo/party bus. I got married in the fall so instead of doing flowers on the tables we did lanterns with fake fall leaves. I also used a place that provided me with the table centerpieces as rentals, table clothes, chair covers, and our bridal party flowers. So basically the day of we didn’t have to set everything up.
We had 200 guests and payed $15k so with 100 guests you could easily do it for 6-7k.
Post # 8
Oh and I was also in school and wasn’t really into the wedding planning. I was a huge stress ball lol. Good luck!
Post # 9
Focus on the most important aspects of your wedding and put the most time and money into those. Try to find a venue that has decent all inclusive packages, so you won’t have to worry about running around to find different vendors.