Post # 1
My fiancé and I have very similar personalities. We’re both quiet, reserved and shy around large groups. When were alone, were goofy and silly. I want our wedding to be fun and upbeat.
any ideas for how we can make this happen and still stay in our comfort zone?
Post # 3
That describes us! We’re keeping the guest list small. VERY small. Four people lol. You don’t need to do it that small, but really think about who you’re inviting and why.
I have no qualms about not inviting people. It’s immediate family and my best friend only. We don’t want anyone else there.
We wanted to elope, but I think my sister would be hurt, so we decided to do something bit bigger.
Post # 4
My advice is: Do what you need to do to make it a fun time for you. Enclude things/people you enjoy. Make sure you get time at the wedding (reception) just the two of you. Have elements that are completely (the two of) YOU 🙂
We are having a ceremony one evenings and then the reception the next afternoon. The ceremony is going to be the 25-30 closest people that mean the most to us, and then everyone else will be coming to the reception. Our first dance music is going to be non-conventional (broadway showtunes) and the reception will be more of a cocktail reception – which is more suited to our personalities and the fact that I can’t handle long events well (autism related issues).
Post # 5
I would love to have a small wedding but he has a huge immediate family. At least 75 people just with aunts, uncles & first cousins. Not inviting them isn’t really an option.
Post # 6
How about getting an MC as well as a DJ? Some good MC can really get people on the dance floor and have some fun.
Post # 7
@caiteliz23: Struggling with the same thing. A small wedding isn’t a possibility since it would be a huge deal if we didn’t invite our combined hundred or so first cousins.
What I have done is us tried to plan the weekend in a way that gives us relaxed time in small groups. For example I want to start the day with a small brunch with our wedding party, pictures will be done before the ceremony so I’m not worried about other guests and can focus on just family/wedding party.
We are also cutting a lot of the traditions so that there is less focus on just the two of us (i.e. no bouquet/garter toss, no mother/son or father/daughter dances, possibly no cake cutting).
And we are planning a recpetion that will have dancing AND other activities simultaniously so that my only options aren’t just dance and be self concious or go talk to people you haven’t seen in months and feel self concious, but also include things like playing a round of poker.
Post # 8
@zoso90: those are great ideas! Thanks!