- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Note that the title of this thread isn’t “how to get your wedding blogged”, “how to have your wedding featured on Pinterest”, or any other such nonsense. No offense to those to whom these things are important- but all that was important to me was that we had the best damn party we knew how to (and could!) have. We tried really hard not to fall for all of the wedding propaganda. Here are some of the ingredients that went into our wonderful day:
We didn’t have chair covers. This was something that we struggled with, should we or shouldn’t we – Honestly, once I looked around the venue, all I could see was all of the guys’ suit jackets over the backs of their seats anyway- SO glad we didn’t spend the $$.
We went with an inexpensive, local vendor for some very simple uplighting. So many of the lighting providers wanted to include fancy initial projections on the dance floor, a “lighting coordinator”, pin/spotlights, etc – we found someone that for 1/3 of the price did exactly what we wanted.
We didn’t have a posted menu, or menu cards at each place setting. We (gasp) served our dinner family style. We also didn’t have fancy/expensive escort/seating card holders – just simple folded cards (from Michaels crafts) that I wrote out by hand. We used the table numbers provided to us by the venue and they were perfectly effective.
We didn’t have favors. Again – we struggled with “how important are they”, “will people notice if we have them or care if they don’t” – instead of favors, we decided to offer our guests late-night sandwiches, cookies, and coffee. This was MUCH appreciated, particularly by those who were drinking!
We didn’t have a huge cake, we spent just over $300 and had plenty of cake for our 200 guests. (Here’s a secret – the bakery that we used tried to tell us that our cake would only serve between 75-125 guests – sure, if they wanted huge slabs of cake or 3-4 pieces each – but I am here to tell you that we had PLENTY of cake- granted, we didn’t have any left over, nor did we save the top layer for our anniversary. But I would MUCH rather go back to the bakery on our anniversary and get a NEW cake- ha!) Incidentally, we had a simple/elegant 3 tiered cake with buttercream designs and flowers. No fondant, no real flowers, nothing outrageous. And it was delicious.
We didn’t go crazy on the centerpieces, we had a mix of very simple high and low centerpieces, and the effort, skill, and heart that went into our flowers was worth 10x what we paid for them. Here it is a few days after the wedding and my bouquet (as well as a couple of the bridesmaids bouquets), a centerpiece, and grooms’ boutonniere look almost as fresh as they did on Saturday.
Instead of a guest book, we had a “wish tree”. Nothing remotely fancy or expensive – I picked up the tree for $40 from Pier 1, put some string onto craft tags so people could write wishes and hang them on the tree. That went over very well, I love reading all of the messages from everyone!
We didn’t have a fancy/formal exit/goodbye so that eliminated the need for an unnecessary limo to take us home (we had a friend drop us off, we live right near the venue anyway!) We did splurge a bit on a party trolley to take the bridal party to the ceremony, then to the photo location, then to the reception- well worth it – it was tons of fun and people got a kick out of seeing us pull up in the trolley!
The things that were important to us were that people enjoyed the food and the music. I had numerous people come up to me at the reception (and even in the days since!) to tell me how great a time they had, and that they really appreciated the special touches we put on our day.
I hope that those who are struggling with how to put the perfect touches on their day can read this and appreciate it. Some people are really into making sure every last detail is “wedding day perfect”- and I think that is different than having a “perfect wedding day” – if that makes sense. 🙂