Post # 1
The meal plan we chose from our caterer will have hors devours, a salad, and two entree choices. For our entree choices we wanted a beef and chicken option. However we might have a few individuals that MAY need a vegetarian option. Although I have no idea who they are, to my knowledge only one of our guests is an occasional vegetarian.
We can have a third option, but it’s at an additional fee per person. Basically they’ll take the entree that was ordered the least, and add a fee per plate for that option to the bill.
So I DO want to accomodate those with special dietary needs/choices, but I also don’t want meat eaters to just order the vegetarian option for the heck of it. If the vegetarian option isn’t only a few meals ordered, then the bill will get needlessly inflated.
How do I accomodate for this on the RSVP card? Do I just put a check mark for beef and chicken and then a note that says “please let us know of any special dietary needs” and handle it that way? That way I can tackle the those that are gluten free and vegetarian individually? Or do I just need to suck it up and take the risk that 1/3rd of the meals ordered will have an extra fee placed on them?
Post # 3
@lovelyduckie: As a veggie myself.. I dread getting invitations that don’t ask for dietary requirements. This is mainly because I feel like I royal ass having to call up the bride and see if they can accommodate me.. it feels like they never intended on making any arrangements for non-meat eaters and that I’m being a pain for even asking. I would include at least a line that says dietary requirements. When I get an invite that doesn’t, I usually end up writing “I’m a vegetarian” on the RSVP card before returning it if I don’t know the bride well enough to feel comfortable calling her (I’m Italian and get invited to a lot of weddings where I don’t know the couple all that well).
Post # 4
@lovelyduckie: Just do the line of Dietary Restrictions. This will also help you with allergies that you aren’t aware of (I have tomato allergy, garlic allergy and another random allergy guests coming and didn’t know before!)
Post # 5
I think your solution sounds perfect.
Post # 6
Just write on the menu choice card vegetarian option available upon request. Only true veggies will call you up to make the request.
I’m not a fan of the dietary restriction line because honestly, you’re not going to be able to accommodate every individual allergy, nor should you have to. People with allergies and restrictions know how to take care of themselves and will figure out something to eat (or eat beforehand if it’s that big of an issue).
Post # 7
@sanjessica: +1 – best option
Post # 8
@lovelyduckie: Two of my BMs are Vegitarians and our main dishes are pasta carbonara (has bacon in it) and a veggie lasagna. We arent telling people its veggie lasagna tho. lol Most people will prob eat it and not even notice! 🙂
Post # 9
I’m also a veggie. I think vegetarian option available upon request is perfect. Only people who really need that option will go out of their way to contact you for that, but I think you’re correct that if it’s just an additional option, some people may just think it sounds good and pick it.
Post # 10
Like your venue, my venue would have charged extra for us offering a vegetarian option.
We actually offered only one entree — a combination plate featuring a filet of beef and shellfish, and we made no mention of entree selections whatsoever on our response cards. However, we did list our entire menu on our wedding website and included a line that said something such as, “If you are allergic to shellfish or are unable to eat beef, please contact us at ___________________.” No one contacted us to request any dietary adjustments.
I already knew about several seafood allergies and aversions among my guests, so I proactively assigned those guests “double beef” entrees. Likewise, I knew that my father, who is Catholic, could not eat meat on Friday (he still observes this year-round), so he received a double portion of the shellfish.
One of my guests jokingly asked if she and her husband could have the surf-and-turf of another friend and her husband. When I heard this, I then contacted this other friend to ask if she and her husband are vegetarians, and she said that they are but that she actually wanted the shellfish option. We decided on a cheese ravioli entree for her husband. He was the only one who received this special dish.
Post # 11
Please include the special dietary needs comment.
Personally, I added in a vegetarian option. My dad and my best friend are vegetarians. There’s also a seafood and chicken option. Fiance and I don’t eat pork and I don’t eat red meat.
Post # 12
@MrsWBS: +1 – I think this is the best option. I am not a vegetarian, but if the vegetarian option were described I might choose it if it sounded good. Otherwise I’d just pick from the listed options. So if you want to limit the people who request the vegetarian meal to those who genuinely need it, don’t describe it! LOL.
Post # 13
What if you have an extra pasta dish of some kind? And then make sure it has no legumes/dairy/etc…?
Post # 14
@suburbian: I’m totally off topic, but I was curious why legumes would be a problem for a vegetarian or vegan. I’ve been a vegetarian over 20 years and that’s usually one of my main protein options, as it is for many vegans and vegetarians. Is there some secret about legumes I don’t know?
Post # 15
@lovelyduckie: Have you specifically asked the caterer if they charge extra for vegetarian requests? Many caterers will offer veggie meals when requested, at no extra charge. Some allow you to offer it as an option, others say you can’t specifically mention it on the reply cards, but if someone requests it, it will be provided. I recommend double-checking just in case.
Post # 16
yup. we actually just have a dual entree that’s crabcakes/filet and i made a line that said “please make note of any food allergies or special diets here:_____________”