(Closed) how to have a wedding with no money

posted 3 years ago in Finances
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Find a couple hundred bucks and go to the courthouse. Have dinner after. It’s a wedding. You’re not going to magically get a dream wedding. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee

I would save up and go elope somewhere. That is what I originally wanted to do. Save up for a dress you love, get something for Fiance to wear and take a few immediate family members if you want and go somewhere and do an elopement package. Don’t bother with a bridal party, and usually those packages come with a bouquet, small cake, photographer, officiant, ect. depending on where you go. That way you can still have beautiful pictures, say “I Do” in front of the ones you love, but don’t have to worry about the little detailed costs that add up in a wedding. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Is your fiancé working? If so, I would hold off the wedding till you have money – there’s no shame in having a long engagement. 

Otherwise just save what you can and go to the courthouse. You can celebrate by going out to dinner or having potluck/BBQ/picnic at home with close ones. It doesn’t need to cost a lot.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Don’t have a wedding. A wedding isn’t necessary. The goal is to get married which you can accomplish with a courthouse ceremony for a couple hundred.

Post # 6
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625 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Try the state park. Many have a small permit fee of $25-50 for wedding parties. Then have a friend marry you. They’ll have to register with a online church so there may be a small fee for them but less than what a professional would cost. Wear a nice dress you already own or thrift one. Make your own bouquet from grocery store flowers… for the reception have cake only or bbq in the park. 

If even the state park is too much then try a friend’s backyard.  My parents were married in my aunt’s tiny backyard in the middle of a city.

If you don’t know anyone with a backyard you can have it in your house or apartment. Clear most of the furniture out of the living room and decorate with some paper streamers and some flowers. Invite your friends and family over. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

All inclusive package elopements, or at least domestically in the USA, can be pretty cost effective, meaningful and beautiful. 

If you could provide us with a baseline budget, we can tailor our suggestions. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Really, if you have absolutely no money you get married in a courthouse and call it a day. What is far more important than planning a wedding is planning a marriage. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

Any event that starts with two people not married and ends with them legally wed is a wedding, whether that involves only the two getting married, 10 guests, 100 guests or 1000 guests.

The only cost required is the cost of the license and and the cost of an officiant to marry you.  Everything else is optional unless you want to have guests.

If you want to have guests, then you are required to appropriately host them with food and drink appropriate to the time of day as a thank you for attending your ceremony.  If that’s not something you can afford, then you wait and save or you cut your guest list and the costs of everything else until you can afford it, even if it means it’s just you and your Fiance at the courthouse with your parents and eating cupcakes and drinking sparkling cider from the grocery store at 2pm.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Going to the courthouse costs maybe $50 tops.  That’s all you need.  Wedding accomplished!

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Go to the courthouse. Be aware though that your status for being considered for SSI/Disability may change once you’re married since one component of determining amount rewarded is income. I know several people who have decided not to get married because doing so would mean they’ll lose their SSI/Disability benefits. Just something to consider.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

1. Buy a cheap, casual white dress at a thrift store as your wedding dress. 2. Make your own bouquet from fake flowers and ribbon from the dollar store. 3. Get married at the courthouse. 4. Have dinner at your favorite dinner afterwards. 5. Go get some cupcakes afterwads. 6. Take cute selfies using a cheap selfie stick off of amazon.

Ta-da!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I agree with 

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rosydelight :  but just want to add, most Justice of The Peace will come to your home for the same cost as the courthouse. Grocery store flowers are just as affordable as fake. There is nothing g wrong with having a potluck wedding if you keep it small, we did it, we provided cakeand bbq hamburgers and hotdogs, my moh made wine and the guests each brought a side dish or snack food. It turned out great! Total cost for everything from the JOP, to my dress, to the rings, to the food we provided totalled out to just under $1000 with lots of thrift shopping and diy-ing.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

can you borrow things? Do any relatives have a nice veil or something? I agree with a lot of what nykkee suggested. What area are you from? maybe some people on here can make some suggestions on things that would be local to you.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

My fiancé and I are planning to elope (local town park). The only items we have to pay for is my dress,rings and the marriage license. My fiancé already has a suit and we’re having his friend (who is a JOP) marry us and my friends uncle is being the photographer. I plan on making our “wedding” cake and putting a cute topper on. Good luck !

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