(Closed) How to have an intimate relationship w/someone HIV + and you're HIV-

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
9766 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

@Silly_love:  I couldn’t do it 🙁 Even though I know a few people that are HIV+ I just couldn’t risk that for my life and my health. On the other hand, I do have friends with Save-The-Date Cards that don’t go away and they have been able to find stable, happy relationships. I honestly don’t know the details of how they informed their partners and all of that, but props to them. I do know one friend that told her boyfriend early on in the relationship and they decided to wait a year or so before having sex so he could be sure. They’ve been together many years now and will probably become engaged soon.

So my best advice would be to determine how important being HIV free is to you. Is it worth the relationship? If this person is your 100% dead on soulmate, then give it more thought, otherwise, I would nip it in the bud 🙁

Post # 33
2066 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Obviously until you’re in the situation, you can’t really say for certain what you would do. But I honestly believe I could be with someone who was HIV+. I’m in dental hygiene and we discussed infectious diseases a lot in school and I still remember my professor telling me that is much easier to contract herpes than it is HIV. That might not be 100% accurate but it has always stuck with me. I think with proper precautions, it wouldn’t be life altering, at this point in time. I dont’ believe financial issues would be a factor as I think our healthcare in Canada would cover this (correct me if I’m wrong).

Post # 34
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Absolutely 100% would not happen. 

Post # 35
1019 posts
Bumble bee

For me, it’d depend on how I felt about my partner. If I am not in an exclusive relationship and one of my dates says that he’s HIV+, I would consider about how diligently he manages his condition, in addition to all the other factors I’d take into account if I were dating around.

My opinions would only echo PPs’ if I lived in an area with less access and more skeptics of HIV/AIDS treatments, such as in parts of Sub-Saharan Africa. 

Post # 36
4522 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My dad died slowly of a terrible illness that took years to kill him, so I’m probably oversensitive when it comes to this kind of topic.

If I fell in love with someone and they happened to have HIV, it would not effect my decision to be with them. There would be precautions that can be taken (like @kittyface: said).


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