Post # 1
Our wedding day is fast approaching, and after giving it some thought, I have decided that I would really like to have an unplugged ceremony. The thought of someone forgetting their cell phone, or jumping into the aisle and blocking our photographer, or, for me, the worst, having my first kiss picture in front of a sea of iphone/ipad screens, makes me a little sad.
So I know this is becoming popular, and I would like to know how best to ask guests to oblige during our short ceremony. Should I have the officiant ask everyone to not use cameras (and do it before I walk down the aisle? Or after I walk down the aisle?) Should we put it in the program? Have a sign? Another idea?
Post # 3
I’m going to have our officiant make an announcement at the beginning of the ceremony. People may not see, or may choose to ignore a sign.
Post # 4
I didn’t want an unplugged ceremony, but I did want guests to refrain from posting any wedding pictures to social media. I put that request in the program which was placed in everyone’s seat.
Post # 5
We posted it on our website and then the officiant was supposed to remind everyone. I’m not sure if she did or not though…I was in another room at the start of the ceremony.
Post # 6
All of the above! Seriously some guests read, some don’t. I would have a sign, something in the program AND have the officiate make the announcement BEFORE anyone walks down the aisle. We missed yet ANOTHER bride coming down the aisle last weekend because a fatty aunt in a bright blue moomoo decided to step into the aisle just as the bride came down with her dad.
Post # 7
A good friend of mine is a Baptist Minister. He comes out prior to the groom coming out, welcomes everyone and asks them to turn off their cellphones and to not come out into the aisle to take pics. Hope that helps.
Post # 8
I think in your case, you should definitely make sure that guests are fully aware about the unplugged status before you walk down the aisle, before the ceremony even starts, especially if you’re worried about guests blocking the aisle or having their faces blocked by tech gadgets in your walk down the aisle pictures. How you do it depends on your guests. If they’re big “program readers” (aka they’ll actually read the programs), you could just include a statement in the program. But making an announcement would really call out your guests to make sure they comply- then anyone who does break the unplugged rule looks inconsiderate. If it were me, I’d probably include it in the program and also have an officiant make a short statement before, but I’m paranoid like that, ha.
Post # 9
I did all of the above, and it went off well. I think if you go with only one of those things, some people are likely to forget.
Post # 10
All of it. Never underestimate how much guests (and even family members) will ignore your wishes.
Post # 11
If you put it in the program, you need to make sure everyone gets a program. At the last wedding I attended (for a family member) we were hanging out with bride until mintues before and never made it through the foyer of the church to grab a program, so we wouldn’t have seen your message.
Post # 12
All of these suggestions are great ladies! Just one question, when you say “at the start of the ceremony,” is it before the parents even go to their seats? Because I thought the officiant goes after the parents? Or maybe I’m just confused on the order. Our friend is officiant, so we will have to decide the order. Thanks so much!