- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
So I figured I’d start here, because I have no idea who I would ask in “real life” and the Bee seems to be a great starting point 😛
So, my husband and I both graduated from undergrad with bachelors in psychology. I’ve been out of school since last December while he graduated in December 2010. Neither of us have done anything with our degrees, are currenty working part time, menial jobs, and are expecting our first child in August.
Throughout undergrad, the plan after graduating was graduate school. There was never another avenue considered. So we did a lot of independent research for our department, presented at conferences, I got a couple authorships on some journal publications. You know, things that look good on transcripts.
Then we graduated. And have no desire to persue graduate school for psychology.
Well, I don’t – not even an inkling. My goal for a future career is completely far removed from the social sciences and is an entirely different monster.
My husband, on the other hand, is just lost. He has no idea what he wants to do. A grad program isn’t out of the question, depending on what sort of program it is. But he doesn’t seem to know what he wants his end goal to be, you know? Like, what does he want to do after completing a graduate program.
We’ve had talks about this and he’s very down on himself because he’s not passionate about anything. Growing up he always wanted to be a psychologist, then when he went to school he was dillusioned by the clinical aspect of psychology. He hadn’t considered anything else and, while he was involved in and really interested in social and experimental psychology, he doesn’t know what avenues are out there.
He’s also expressed interest in teaching and talked about looking for programs along that level. But he doesn’t want to jump into a program and spend all this time and effort and (Idon’tevenwanttothinkaboutit) money on something he’s going to hate. But how do you find that out before jumping in? Same for IT – he’s said many times that he wishes he had just gone for IT instead of psychology from the beginning and would like to go back for something in that area, but with us both having massive amounts of loans for degrees we’re not even using – frankly, it makes my head spin. I would feel much better about him using his undergrad degree to go into like a masters level program in a different field than going back for an entirelly different degree – if that makes sense.
Anyway, this has gotten way too rambly. I’m just really concerned and would appreciate any advice to give him. We both just feel really stuck and with the wedding being over and the baby coming in the next couple of months, I think things are just seeming overwhelming and like we need to take action!….but we have no idea what to do 😛