- 2 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
My hubby is an extremely hard working guy. He is also someone that will give the shirt of his back and try to help anyone he can. He is an amazing worker and at his old job he was at for 10 years, he was basically doing the job of the management roles aboew him( had a smaller manager type role) but didnt have the title basically and got less pay. Everyone at the job loved him, appreciated him, all the clients raved about him, but there were people already in the positions above him and they knew they got the best end of the deal- him doing more big jobs with a less title and money- win for them.
My husband got a new job about 4 months ago. Now, we kind of knew from the start it would be a lot of work, basically new company starting over, but he wanted to move on from the past job, move into this role.
It has gotten so stressful now. He is working with the owners and 4 other managers in different departments but they all ahve to kind of work together in the end- and he is doing the job of like 8 differnet people, plus more and he just cant do it. The owners are worried about saving $100 on an electrion when they dont even have a speical license they need that could cost them thousands of dollars if not more. And this license from another department in the end, effects my husband and his job.
He feel even though he is working so hard, doing the job of so many people, he is being set up to fail.
My hsuabdn rarely cries- he cried on our wedding day, the birth of our baby and a few other times, but he doesnt cry often. Every morning before work, he has cried and hugged me so hard so many times- my heart breaks for him. I dont know what to do to take away his stress. He is afraid of letting others down since literally 100’s of friends and family, were so proud of him for getting this position. But he seriosuly cant go on like this- there is no urgency from any of the other departments nor owner to get it done- thereofre its just him trying so hard to do it but he literally just cant o it all- he cant be the IT guy they didnt hire in time, or the electrition they are trying to find cheaper therefore delaying what needs to be done.
He has cried and poured his heart out to me and I just dont know what to do. I am in the process of finding a new job( was on maternity leave and my job was much too far to work out with babysitting and travel) so he is the sole provider at the moment so we cant have him just quit at the moment.
What do I do? How do you help your spouse with work stress? He is even afraid of looknig for a new job as he afraid of letting others down but he was excited and they were excited along with him, to start this new job. I agree though, after hearing everything from him and a friend, they are almost setting him up to fail as well, with things otuside of his control.
Any helpful tips would be much apprecaited!