(Closed) How to hide disappointment when he doesn't propose on vacation..

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Buy him a ring– on the last day, if he doesn’t propose– you do it.  🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@KJM33:  I was really upset yesterday when it didn’t happen for me. I thought he was just throwing me off by saying another year. So I just acted like I was tired lol. Just until he stopped asking me whats wrong what wrong whats wrong. I would wait untill you get home from vacation to tell him how you feel!

 

  Good luck!!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just think of the following things to put a smile on your face:

1. Another margarita

2. David Beckham

You bought a house together and have never discussed marriage? I think  mutual real estate purchase is a lot more binding than marriage.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

When are y’all going on vacation? It might be taking a risk, but could you approach him about marriage ahead of time?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

@mimi123:  Especially in a market like this one– I completely agree! Real estate requires more commitment than a marriage! Wink

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’re totally within your right to be upset.  I don’t see why you even need to hide that.  You’re old enough and the relationship has been long enough that you have a right to know if it’s happening or not.  Honestly, you need to find this out before you waste anymore time.  I would just lay down the law if I were you!!!  Good luck!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

Have you had discussions about marriage with him? I understand you have a house together, but clearly the two of you aren’t on the same timeline, and that would have been my top priority prior to buying a house. But since that is already done, sitting down with him now and asking for a timeline is really what needs to happen. You both need to be on the same page, and if you aren’t, you have to accept that he’s not ready or move on. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@KJM33:  

What does he say then when you discuss it?

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

@KJM33:  So you don’t want to ruin his moment, but you want to control when it happens? I would take your own advice and don’t ruin his moment. And if it doesn’t happen on vacation, know that you guys discussed it and it will be happening soon.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

With my ex, we went on several vacations where I hoped he would propose and he didn’t.  With the first vacation, I didn’t really know if he would but he had hinted he might.  With the second, I didn’t know but thought it might happen.  In the middle of that vacation I realized he wouldn’t.  With the third vacation, I knew it wasn’t going to happen at all.  By that point I knew he had checked out of the relationship (we were LDR).

We always had a post-vacation discussion, and he knew I was disappointed we weren’t getting engaged.  Not sure if it made things better or worse, it just was.  Obviously we didn’t work out so maybe my disappointment made him frustrated or whatever.

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