(Closed) How to hold back the flood gates on your wedding day.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t really have any advice seeing as though I am in the same boat as you and also worry about ugly crying during my ceremony!

But I think I will just need to keep reminding myself that its a happy day, supposed to be lots of fun, and to try and keep a smile on my dial instead of tears… easier said then done though I think! Good luck Laughing

Post # 4
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1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Waterproof makeup. Thats what I’m doing since I know I’m gonna cry like a little girl with a skinned knee. I cry at the end of Terminator 2 because he dies….I’m so not going to be able to hold it together either

Post # 5
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522 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m the same way. I cry at weddings when I don’t even know the bride or groom. And you know what – I didn’t cry at my own. I was sure I would. I expected Ugly Cry Face walking down the aisle, but I just beamed. I was so happy and excited that I didn’t even go there.

I read somewhere on Weddingbee that you either won’t cry or you won’t cry as hard if you press your tongue up against the roof of your mouth. I have no idea if that works…I should try it the next time I get emotional. I was prepared to try it during my ceremony, but I didn’t have to.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I read something once and I think it was on here that to avoid crying, think of a task in your head and go over how to complete it. I start crying at the thought of walking down the aisle to my love so I know I’m going to lose it. I’m at least trying to hold in some tears so I get good pictures!

Post # 7
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7387 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Corilee13: OMG YOU TOO! I swear I always use this example numero uno as to i’m such a loser. That scene gets me EVERY FUCKING TIME…

Post # 8
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I was so worried about the same thing on my wedding day! The emotional build up–the presence of family and friends–marrying the most amazing man in the world? I can’t get through an ASPCA commercial without tears, so I figured I was doomed on my wedding day. 🙂 But you know what I ended up doing? I realized that if I looked my fiance in the eyes during the ceremony I would lose it, so I used an old public-speaking trick I learned years ago. I focused on his eyebrows, so about an inch over his acutal eyes, while we did our vows. I don’t know why it works, but it did for me. That was the only part of the ceremony I was really worried about, and I stayed tear-free for the whole ceremony.

I also suggest having some alone time the night before the wedding. Then if you want to cry, go ahead. The more you try to keep yourself from crying, the more you want to do it, so try and “get it out of your system” before walking down the aisle. I had a good cry at about 2:00am the morning of my wedding. 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I was terrified that I was going to start crying while walking down the aisle, but thankfully I didn’t. It’s so hard to determine how you will react. You could either be scared of the crowd and kinda petrified or your emotions could take over or you could just be completely calm.

I was actually really calm and just enjoyed the moment, my step-sister however (who never cries) might I add, cried like a baby the whole way down the aisle! it was awful and quite entertaining. lol

Post # 10
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3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I started crying the minute my make up was finished.  I have no tips!

Post # 11
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I feel your fear! I’m so scared I’ll be a big blubbering mess as I cry at literally EVERYTHING! I pray that I’ll hold it together but will be keeping a close eye out for any more advice fellow bees may have!

Post # 12
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I’m a big cryer usually, but for some reason wedding day I was all smiles. There were certain points during the ceremony when I started tearing up, but I just kind of tuned out for a bit to stop it from happening. I’m not a pretty cryer, so I didn’t want it to happen in front of everyone.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Its nice to hear my fellow cryers say that during their wedding day that they were ok!  I am a major cryer.  Fridge commercials, certain songs, anything remotely sappy gets me.  My family rips on me constantly about it.  I was joking that I would need 2 valium to walk down the aisle but I am hoping that I will be just so happy that I won’t need to cry.

Or I will use the eyebrow trick!

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