Post # 1
This is my first post (virginity officially lost!) and I need some ideas on this one.
I’m getting married in Mexico in April 2013 and trying to come up with ways to honor the mother of my husband-to-be at our wedding ceremony.
She passed away in late 2007 and I’m grateful that I was able to know her and that she knew me.
The ideas I have may seem funeral-y (that’s not a word but you know what I mean). Like, putting her picture on a chair and saying a few words about her during the ceremony.
I want to be respectful and honor her as if she were there with us.
Any other ideas are greatly appreciated 🙂
Post # 3
When we did our unity candles we went around to our parents and grandparents, who had a rose for each person we wanted to remember. We put them in a vase up on the altar. Also, just having them in the program is nice.
Post # 4
my mother, myself, and Fiance are lighting a seperate candle at cermony for my father
Post # 5
We are actually in a similar boat. My Fiance’s mom passed away last year, so we are keeping one chair for the ceremony, empty, when he comes down the isle he is going to place a rose, when his dad, and sisters, same thing and when I walk down I will have my mom holding one to hand to me to place on the chair as well.
Post # 6
I lost my mother and Fiance lost his grandmother. We are having a table with their faveorite flowers and a picture to honor them as well as a note in our program’s. I am all for recognizing their loss, and planning my wedding without my mom by my side has been really painful, but I don’t want the sadness to take away from the importance and special-ness of our wedding. My mom’s death has torn a lot of my family apart, and my grandmother can barely even say her name without having a break down which is why we are choosing something that isn’t as obvious as leaving a chair open.
Post # 7
Wow, a lot of good ideas. Thank you. I completely understand not taking away from the joy of the day. I also love the candle idea however the beach might be too windy. I think we’ll go with the chair and flowers. Thanks again for all the suggestions!
Post # 8
My father passed away two years ago, I’m going to name him in the program (with appropriate wording) and also include one of his military medals as a charm in my bridal bouquet. (Got this idea from other brides…)
Does your fiancé’s late mother have any special jewelry that you can wear or incorporate in your bouquet?
Post # 9
I like all of these ideas. My grandmother and my Darling Husband grandmother passed away before our wedding and I incorporated items of theirs into my outfit as my something old. (My shoes were my grandmother’s boots and I carried his grandmother’s rosary)
Post # 10
Weve lost some family due to cancer. Most recently my aunt passed of an agressive brain tumor. Instead of clinking glasses to get us to kiss were asking that our guests donate a toonie to a paliative care or cancer research charity (still undecided).
Post # 11
@JacobsMom: Oh my goodness that is beautiful. I’m all teary eyed just thinking about it. I would love to do this too and I think my Fiance would love it as well.