(Closed) How to honor deceased loved ones at wedding

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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ddsbride:  what a great idea. i love that you are using flowers to remember your grandmother! 

Post # 32
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Busy bee

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acw2016 :  we had a parents / grandparents photo gallery. I have lost both my grandads and my husband has lost one of his grandads, so it was both a subtle nod to them and an interesting “ooh look at past family wedding photos” thing..

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

We are doing a Missing Man table. It’s a military thing and Fiance is a veteran.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

At our commitment ceremony I wore my grandmother’s pearl necklace to honor both her and my uncle, whom she was close to. My husband carried a pendant that belonged to his father in his pocket. 

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Instead of honoring our lost loved ones during the wedding ceremony (because I’m afraid I will become too upset at the wedding), we will be lighting and releasing paper sky lanterns the evening before at the welcome reception/rehearsal dinner. We will purchase enough lanterns for all so everyone who attends can honor their lost loved ones along with us. 

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee

I’m doing a memorial table. I don’t care if people think its morbid. My finacee and I want to honor those who aren’t here. OUr grandparents are VERY important to us, and we want the table.

Besides, I collect mourning jewlery, so a table with people’s pics on it is tame. Atleast I’m not bringing out the hair jewlery. 

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I think a mention in the program would be good. For mine, all 4 of my grandparents have passed away so I put pictures of each of them on their wedding day on the same small table in the foyer that had the guest book. This way people got a chance to see the pics but it wasn’t overwhelming sad with candles like a memorial or something. In a perfect world, I would’ve liked to had the officiant mention something quick about those who were there with us in spirit, but I was close with my grandparents and I think I would’ve started sobbing if I had decided to do that. 

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I’m so glad you asked the question! I love the idea of incorporating flowers and the lockets/charms on the bouquet.

Fiance lost his mother just shy of two years ago and was extremely close to her. He still has a hard time talking about it. We were discussing wedding planning today and I mentioned that I thought it would be nice to do something to honor his mom and he got upset (not at me, I think I just caught him off guard and remembering the loss upset him). He said he’d think about it, but having some ideas to gently offer is great.

I think the tables would be too hard for him, but the subtle rememberances are perfect. Nobody else has to even know. 🙂

Thanks everyone for your input!

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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acw2016 :  I once went to a wedding and the grooms mother had died unexpectedly a few months before the wedding. In his speech he addressed her and it was so beautiful and heartfelt. 

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