Post # 1
Hello! I am looking for advice/ideas or something to help me honor my dad at my wedding. When I get married in June, he will have been gone 7 and a half yrs. Naturally, it’s starting to hit me more and more that he won’t be there to walk me or dance with me which seems to be the most difficult part of this whole thing. I have asked my stepdad to walk me halfway to my papa (dad’s dad) to give me to my husband. This was very difficult to think about but the father/daughter dance seems to be the big hurdle for me here. I have asked my dad’s favorite brother to dance with me. What I can’t figure out, is what kind of a song to dance to and how should I honor him during my wedding? There is a fine line between remembering him and having another memorial. It is going to tear me apart either way but trying to make it as non awkward as possible. Is it too much to dance with my uncle to “Dance with my father again” by Luther Vandross? and possibly have a short slideshow presentation with pics of my dad and I playing? I don’t know how to make sure he’s recognized but not be too much… Thanks!
Post # 3
I totally understand how you’re feeling. My Dad has been gone for 10 years today actually. I’m also having my Grandpa (Dad’s Dad) walk me down the aisle. I’ll also be doing a small charm on my bouquet with his picture and wedding ring on it. We’re also doing a small table at the reception with a picture of him and pictures of our Grandparents that have passed with candles. I, personally, would not do a slide show just becaause I think it could cross that line to “memorial” and I know it would be really hard on a lot of my family. But it’s a personal thing so whatever makes you feel better and makes him feel “near” on that day go ahead and do it!
Post # 4
I’m sorry to hear of your loss as well. My dad’s 7 yrs was October 23rd. This is such a difficult thing and I never thought I would have to be honoring him at my wedding instead of him being there. He and my mom had been divorced for many yrs but my grandma just found a picture of him dancing with me at their wedding (I was 5 months old and he was 19) back in the late 80’s and it is such an awesome pic because he is dancing with me, not at my wedding, but he’s smiling at me and I can see his love and how happy he was 🙂 Makes it a little easier I guess
Post # 5
How about a family photo table that includes pictures of you and your dad, but also includes other family photos as well? That way he’ll be there but in less of a “memorial” sort of way.
My Father-In-Law passed away about a year before our wedding. We displayed our parents’ wedding photos and albums next to our guest book. People had lots of fun looking through the albums, and it was a nice way to have photos of my Father-In-Law there without drawing additional attention to the fact that he had passed away.
We listed three sections on the back of our program: (1) Thanks to our parents (2) thanks to our friends and family (3) “In memory” of my Father-In-Law and others.
My husband also wore his dad’s monogrammed cufflinks at our wedding.
Post # 6
A table with pics is a great idea. His fave flower was the lilac and I’m thinking of doing white lilacs in my bouquet since purple won’t match my colors. Both parents had been remarried so I can’t really use a lot of stuff from their life together without making it too awkward. I just want him to be a big part of my day but not in the crying, emotional drunk crying way if that makes sense. Which, I’m sure will happen by the end of the night anyway…haha
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
I’ve seen the bouquet charms and think they’re a great idea 🙂