(Closed) How to honor deceased parents at wedding please?

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
865 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@joeandangela: Im so sorry about your parents! I lost my dad when I was 12 also, at the cermony we are putting a rose in a chair for him. 

There are a lot of different things you can do, you can set off balloons, candles, pictures (I couldnt do that, I would loose it!!), carry something in your flowers. 

Hope some of these helped!

Post # 4
28 posts

Honoring a love one is a really sweet touch for a wedding ceremony.  Here’s a few ideas…

Carry a locket in your bouquet with a picture of each parent.

Honor them by lighting a candle as part of your ceremony.

Reserve a seat at the front or your ceremony with a rose in a empty seat… placing the rose can be part of your ceremony.

Make a note of a special memory and or picture of you and your parents in your program.  Or maybe you can bring this to life (ie: releasing butterflies outside, etc)

I would also ask your officiant for ideas… they may have lots of past examples of ways to honor a loved one.  Follow your heart and it will be a powerful moment for everyone involved.

Post # 6
6995 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I had a table next to the gift table that had wedding pictures of our grandparents from both sides and our parents wedding pictures as well. we decorated it with candles and everyone seemed to really love it.

a note in the program is always a great idea too.

i dont know if this is an option but when we were on our honeymoon they had a big bonfire and paper lanters that each couple got to light and let go…it was a really beautiful scene and i think that would be a really neat way to honor people who have passed. here is an ehow – way to DIY them




Post # 7
865 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@joeandangela: Maybe place them in the chair before, just so you dont have to do it and break down! 

I have a poem that you can put with your boquet or maybe frame it, its reallly pretty.

Dear Lord please clear a spot for him 

he should have the perfect view.

His little girl’s a Bride today,

and I am counting on you.

Let me feel his presence;

as I journey down the aisle.

But let me notice his absence;

if only for a while.

Let me stop to think of him;

As I am given away.

And know that if he could;

he would be here with me today.

Dear Lord please clear a spot for him;

he should have the perfect view.

And if he should get sad today;

Dear Lord I count on you.


You could change this and make it your own, and maybe put “them” in place of him…just an idea!

Post # 9
865 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Im glad its perfect! I will be using it as well 🙂

Post # 10
2191 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

For my sister’s wedding, our father passed when we were in high school, a short reading was followed by the reading of the names of the grandparents and my dad who had passed on.  After each name a bell was rung.  It was very touching and sweet.

I like the rose on a chair idea.  May use that for my ceremony to remember my dad.

Post # 12
1096 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ll be “borrowing” my father’s wedding band from my brother and sewing it into my dress. It’s my something borrowed and old and honors him in a way where I won’t have to do anything that will make me all emotional. I will probably write something in the programs too although I haven’t figured out what yet.

Post # 13
1086 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I plan on having two empty chairs as a memorial of two family members that have passed with a lit candle to represent their spirit still shining on us during the celebration to show they are still there.

Post # 15
2701 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

When I was little my dad would always put on his vinyl records and we would dance. My favorite song to dance with him was “just like heaven” by the cure. I think after the mother/son and mother/daughter dance ill have the DJ play it and announce that this is the song I would have liked to have danced with him. But instead to have everyone get up and join me 🙂

Hugs! It sucks! I wish we all could have our parents back !

Post # 16
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Fiance mom passed and we are showing pictures on the screens of her as a child, teen and then adult with in loving memory scrolling across at church while we are lighting the untily candle and we have some one singing the lord prayer at the same time

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