How to Honor Friends in an Untraditional Ceremony! PLEASE HELP!

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Give them gifts to thank them for throwing events, tbh that’s probably the best honor of all… well and I doubt they’ll complain about not having to buy special dresses! 

Other honors to consider: hosting a “getting ready” gathering for them before the wedding, making sure to get pictures with them, having them sign the marriage license, giving them corsages, having them do a reading during the ceremony, having them give a toast at the reception, thanking them in your toast, seating them near you at the reception. It would be too much to have all of them to all of those things, but you could give some of those honors to one friend each (esp. readings and toasts, there’s such a thing as too many of those haha).

Post # 3
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I went to a wedding recently where after the bride and groom said “I do” the pastor addressed the audience with a nice speech about community and friendship and asked everyone to say “We will” in unison to promise that they would encourage and love the couple through their marriage.  It was kind of cheesy but actually really sweet when I look back at it.  If you wanted to single out a particular group of friends you could have their seats arranged toward the front and have them stand for a similar kind of “friendship vows” portion of the ceremony.


Post # 4
2889 posts
Sugar bee

naivemelody :  I agree with giving them gifts to thank them for everything they’ve done.  That is a great idea!

Post # 5
935 posts
Busy bee

My brother and SIL only had one maid of honor and one best man, and they were both family members.

My SIL asked me and all of her girlfriends to wear red dresses. (Their colors were red and silver.) All of us “honorary” bridesmaids matched and stood out compared to the rest of the crowd and we took some really cute pictures after the ceremony together.

Post # 6
2427 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I don’t think you have to devote much energy to honoring other people at YOUR wedding. It is an event to honor your committment and there are other events to honor other people. 

Birthdays, anniversaries. This wedding is for you.

Post # 7
2451 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree a nice little thank you gift would be great. You could also dedicate a portion of the “thank you” speech at the reception specifically to them. 

Post # 8
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We didn’t have a bridal party, and had our families walk us to the aisle. We both got ready with our closest friends though (plus our siblings) and included pictures with our close friends in the shot list with our photographers. We had lots of great pictures and everyone felt honored, plus we got to spend time with them on our wedding day but didn’t have to extend the ceremony or have anyone up there but us and our officiant. Our siblings did readings. 

I’ve been an usher at a friend’s wedding where she wanted me to have a special responsibility but already had a full quorum of bridesmaids, so that might be an option for you. Honestly I didn’t really care either way on that one, would have been just as happy sitting in my seat until the ceremony started rather than handing out programs.

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