Post # 1
Here’s the short version of my situation:
-parents divorced, dad lives 1/2 the country way, mom has w/ her boyfriend for 12 years. I am very close to my dad and he has always been a part of my life buy my mom’s boyfriend (who I consider my step-dad even though they are not married) has been like a dad to me on the more day to day basis. I want to be able to do something special for him w/out hurting or taking any special moment away from my dad. I thought about the both walking me down the aisle but feel that this is too big of a moment for my dad and don’t think I could take that away from him or me.
Any ideas, let me know! Thanks!!!!!
Post # 3
I’m in the same boat!! if i get any ideas i’ll let you know!
Post # 4
The foolproof way to include someone special in your wedding is to A) have them do a reading, and B) ask them to give a toast. =) If you want to do something extra special with him, maybe have a special dance with him, as well as with your father.
If he has any musical talent (singing, playing an instrument) maybe consider having him perform at the ceremony. =)
Post # 5
Glad I’m not the only one in the blended family boat!
I like the dance idea! Thanks!
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2022 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
I had a long walk down the "aisle" at my wedding, so I had my stepdad walk me the first half and my dad walk me the second half. So, my dad got to hand me off to Mr. K. But we also had my stepdad do a reading during the ceremony. Both of them gave speeches at the reception. It felt really balanced and inclusive. 🙂
Post # 7
I just went to a friends wedding who had both her dad and step-dad walk her down the aisle, and they both gave welcome toasts. It was very nice to see the importance of both of these men her life, and it seemed very natural!
Post # 8
I like the idea of your Dad walking you down the aisle and your step-dad doing a reading at the cereomony. That way the importance of both men in your life is shown, but neither would be stepping on the others toes, so to speak.
Post # 9
I just went to a wedding where the bride walked down the aisle with her real father and danced with him. Then the DJ invited all of the fathers and daughters to join the bride as she danced with her stepfather. Kind of nice.
Post # 10
Thanks for all the ideas! It has definatly helped!
Post # 11
I’m in the same boat… My stepdad is very important to me but I don’t want to hurt my dad’s feelings either. My stepdad also doesn’t have any daughters of his own so I thought it would be nice to have him be able to walk someone down the aisle since my dad already got to do that twice with my two sisters. My mom is also an issue because she wants to walk me down the aisle too… problem is, our aisle isn’t wide enough for three across.
I’ve considered the following option: Dad walks me down the aisle, mom gives the toast at the reception, and stepdad does the first dance with me… or you could switch and have my stepdad walk me down and the first dance go to my dad. There’s just something really nice about my dad giving me away but my mom is going to be a pain about it.
I like the idea of my stepdad giving a reading… he’s a really great guy and means the world to me so I want to showcase that somehow!
Post # 12
i dont have a stepdad.. but my daughter will… every time i see something on here like this i wonder how she will feel and how she will choose eventho she is only 2 at this point.. i know its got to be a little difficult, especially with my daughters situation where my Fiance has been there EVERY day since she was 4 months old and her father has seen her a total of a month since she was 3 months old… i dont envy your decision ladies..
Post # 13
If you don’t want to walk down the aisle half w/step-dad half w/biological dad, and you don’t want to ask him to do a reading, as others have suggested, could you ask him to be an usher?