Post # 1
Hi Bee’s –
I am recentaly engaged and my Fiance is an NPHC Fraternity and I am in an NPHC Sorority. They are a huge part of our life and most of the wedding party is affliated with these organizations. We both plan on doing a circle at the wedding and being sung to by our national song. However, I don’t want it to be ALL about greek like…yet they are very special to me.
Anything yall have done that honored them?
I have thought about doing a small display table of their pictures and symbol’s during cocktail hour or the reception. Thoughts?
Post # 3
Hmm..not sure if this is helpful. I’m a tri-delta and one of our symbols is the pearl. So I’ll be wearing pearls. I’ll also wear my pin somewhere on my persons.
Post # 4
This is probably already something you’ve thought of, but get a group picture of all the brothers and another of all the sisters!
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Do you have a pin that you can attach to your bouquet? I think the circle with the song is enough, personally. What about naming two signature cocktails after the frat/sorority and putting a note by the bar with the story of the frat/sorority and how much it means to you?
Post # 6
@icetea: Our symbol is a pearl as well that is quite viable.
@JenGirl: I hadn’t thought of that! LOVE IT.
@MeiFrancis: We DO have a pin and I absolutely LOVEEEE this idea!! Our pin was SUPER expensive and I’d love to have my Fiance and Mine attached to my bouquet. We were already planning on doing signature cocktails anyways, so this is absolutely going to work!
LOVE THE BEE!
Post # 7
I pinned my lavalier to my bouquet, and my bridesmaids wore pearl earrings (Our gem as well!) and their lavaliers as jewelry. Make sure you get a big group picture too! 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@Meant2Bee: happy to help!
Post # 9
Our charter had specific rules about sisters at weddings. I have since parted with my sorority, but you might want to check with your chapter about any obligatory things you may have to do or avoid doing. I think we had rules about seating and escorts and such. Part of our rules involved “sober sisters” and we also had rules about drinking when 3 or more sisters are present at an event… which involved a specific rule for a sisters wedding. It was all very complicated. :
Post # 10
@Meant2Bee: Two suggestions:
1. Pin your lavalieres or bridesmaids’ badges onto your bouquet:
2. Create boutonierres for your sisters to wear at the wedding.
Post # 11
I pinned my badge to my bouquet. My chapter also had a certain song that we play at all formals/weddings, so we did that. I also made sure to put on my photographers list to get a picture of me with all my sorority sisters.
A sister that got married this Oct. named their signature cocktail after our sorority mascot and her husband’s fraternity mascot. It was a cute nod/ inside secret to those of us that were sisters.
@HappySky7: This only applies during collegiate years due to risk management and alcohol. Should not be a problem for alumnae.
Post # 12
Oh. For us it’s active, alumni and associate members.
Post # 13
Ok, first of all, the “take a violet and pin it to your lapel” thing made me tear up. No lie.
@Meant2Bee: I’m in an NPHC sorority as well and I’ve been thinking on this subject quite a lot. I don’t think I want any stepping/strolling at my reception. I mean, I wouldn’t flip if it happened, but I won’t encourage it (and I won’t be playing certain songs that would cause it…you know what I mean). I’m also pretty sure I don’t want the hymn either. Not because our hymn isn’t beautiful, but my FH isn’t Greek and most of my family is foreign and won’t “get” it. I think it would seem out of place at my wedding.
We’re going to probably do some Greek emphasis at the bachelorette party. As everything will be destination, it’s not yet clear to me how many sorors/brothers will even be in attendance. If my LSs ‘nem want to sing or do public rituals, I think the rehearsal dinner would be a more appropriate time for that.
If you feel comfortable and your guests would be able to appreciate it, I say go for it! Will there be a groom’s cake? If so, definitely consider decking it out in Black/Gold; Black/Purple; Blue/White; Crimson/Cream; Brown/Gold for him!