Post # 1
Hi bees! I need help:
I have three attendants: My only sister (who I am not very close to) is my maid of honor. I chose her because I felt it was something I had to do becuase… well, she’s my only sister. I have two bridesmaids: my med school best friend and my college best friend. If I had based the Maid/Matron of Honor on who I am closest to, it would have been my med school best friend, no contest. She has also been by far the most help during the wedding process, AND I was Maid/Matron of Honor in her wedding. But like I said I felt that I had to choose my sister for Maid/Matron of Honor.
Here ‘s my challenge — I want to think of a way to honor my med school best friend in a way that doesn’t take away from my sister (the MOH) and doesn’t make my college best friend feel bad that she’s in third place. Girls are so hard! Any ideas?????
Post # 3
To be honest, I think asking her to be in your wedding is honor enough — but if you really think you need to something extra I would suggest a hand written note. A nice long letter thanking her for everything she does for you and everything she is for you is much better way to do things the maybe getting her a piece of jewelry that the other girls will question. Maybe a special night out of dinner and drinks just the two of you or even a manicure and pedicure to relax together before the wedding lets her know that you love her company and her friendship and you’re very thankful she is a part of your life. I really think you should try to avoid maknig her "stand out" on the actual wedding day because you dont want to cause any drama (oh girls, they are so hard to deal with!) on your big day.
Post # 4
i agree with HumarockBride. I don’t think yo should draw any extra attention to her on the day of the wedding as girls can be catty. I really like the idea of a special night or day that just the two of you can enjoy together.
Post # 5
You guys, the night out is a GREAT idea. Maybe I will even send her a hand-written invitation for a night-out to celebrate our friendship…
THANK YOU! I am going to do this. 🙂
Post # 6
Or, you could take the handwritten note a little further and give her a friendship journal. I found these the other day and they look really neat. YOu can find one specifically "For My Bridesmaid" at http://www.lilangelgifts.com.
You fill in the lined pages with your thoughts and feeling on specific topics like: Things you’ve done that I’m proud of; What you’ve taught me about thiings, life or myself; what I hope for our future as friends, your special role in my wedding and my life; If it were the last time we spoke, what I would say to you, etc. It is the perfect personalized gift because YOU make it personal. I wish I had known about these when I got married.
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Post # 7
That’s sorta what I did. The night before the wedding… away from other bridal party people, I gave my 3 BFs their special gifts, hung out, looked at old, very embarassing photos and talked about what they mean to me. I couldn’t include the other 3 BMs because I did not feel the same way about them. I wasn’t close to them what so ever. They were just threwn into the mix. I feel that a private gathering will be fine because it won’t make the others feel akward. Good Luck!