(Closed) How to honor those who have passed away.

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

I think a table with framed pictures is more then enough.  I know that you mean well by wanting to do more, but if you aren’t careful you can turn your reception into a memorial.  People will know that there are individuals that are no longer with you, and really making that stand out could possibly upset (meaning cause major sadness) some of your guests.

Remember this day is about happiness and two people being united in marriage.  Pushing the loss of loved one’s to the forefront could put a cloud over the entire day.

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Our caterer suggested that we do a memorial table to honor our relatives who had passed as well as those who have lost their lives serving our country (my husband is active duty Navy). She set up a small card table with two chairs and place settings.  Everyone at our reception thought it was a beautiful way to recognize those who couldn’t be there to celebrate with us. 

 

I will go through our wedding pictures to see if I can find something.  I know our photographer got pictures of it. 

  • This reply was modified 4 years ago by  bookbee88.
  • This reply was modified 4 years ago by  bookbee88.
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

We had a small memorial table with pictures of family members who have passed. We didn’t do every family member but the most significant people (parents/grand parents) to us. It was sweet and a small table so as not to make the reception a memorial. It turned out perfect for us. 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

My fiance’s father passed away just a few months ago. We’re doing a simple memory table with a framed picture of him and all our other deceased relatives. Then the table will be scattered with som tea candles and a framed poem. I think it’s a simple and yet sweet idea. I agree with PP. You’re wedding is supposed to be a happy day. You don’t want something that’ll take away from that and bum everyone out. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

At my cousin’s wedding, he mentioned in his speech the people who couldn’t be with us but would have loved to have been there, this included our grandparents. He got quite emotional at that point (so did the rest of us!) and didn’t go through names or anything, but I think just a simple mention of them in a speech is plenty. People will be thinking of them regardless of what you do to honour them.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview

We debated about doing a “memorial table” for our wedding but decided we didn’t want to dampen spirits at the wedding when it was supposed to be a happy occasion. Instead I did charms for my bouquet. It was just a subtle thing, but we knew it was there and thats all that mattered. In fact, my cousin who was up close to my bouquet at one point, didn’t even notice it until the pictures came back!
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Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

My mother passed away and we had the officiant mention her in the ceremony, her name was included “In loving memory” on our program. Both my sister (MOH) and husband included mention of her in their speeches. It was sweet without being a downer. More ideas: http://bit.ly/1TmRJDW

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I think having your officiant mention something is a great idea and you can still keep the tone positive and upbeat – it is all in the message. 

I went to a wedding where the bride had a sister pass. They mentioned her in the ceremony and in addition, they left an open chair at the front with a bouqet for her. I thought it was touching but it was indeed sad. I started crying and I didn’t even know the bride. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Church

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elliemacb:  I love the idea of having a memorial table set up with some flowers, and photos .I’m going to have one in remembrance of my Mother. I’m looking for a memorial candle right now. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

My Grandma always wore this pink hat to all the weddings in the family. She passed away 8 years ago and my Grandfather passed a year ago. We put their “wedding hats” on two empty chairs during the ceremony. We also honored them, and my other Grandfather with a brief moment during the ceremony. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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elliemacb:  I know you were looking for advice for the reception, but what my fiance and I have decided to do, is to honor them at the ceremony with a small prayer and we are putting roses, 1 for my mom and 1 for his grandma, each on a chair in the front row. You could maybe do this at your reception if you decide to dedicate a table to your lost loved ones, along with a few pictures.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We are being very low-key about it. SO, his dad, & brother are going to have pocket squares in his mom’s favorite color from her favorite store. It’s a way for him to “have her there” without anyone else really knowing about it. He didn’t want to make it a big deal & turn the day into a memorial. 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

My partner lost his grandmother last year, and they were very close. I am looking for frames to do this. 

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