Post # 1
We’ve decided to only have family at our wedding but I know my two closest friends are disappointed about it. In all I would have had five: three of my friends, my brother’s future wife, and my Future Sister-In-Law.
One of my friends has been very supportive but my other two very close friends are visibly disappointed but happy we’ve finally made up minds on what we’re doing. I would love to have them there but logistically and financially we just cannot do it.
My question is this, what would be a nice way to honor them as if they were my bridesmaids? I only want to do something for my three friends not the FSILs. My friends have said they still want to have a bachellorette party with me even if it’s just us four. I’m completely ok with this and would love to do it but I want to honor them in some way. I was thinking gift baskets for each girl or some little fun gifts so that they know even though they aren’t going to be there I still appreciate their support and friendship.
Post # 3
Oh those decisions are always hard. It’s great that they’re being supportive of your choice though. A thoughtful gift to them sounds like a great idea. Maybe you could carry something with you on the day that represents your friendships as well so that they are with you in spirit, or have them write a short message to be read out on the day?
Post # 4
@NorthCoastLife: following for ideas…i’ve ultimately decded to forego havign a bridal praty – but still want my friends to feel special and included and give them a little thank you for being there…
Post # 5
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
I’ve seen some really cute “will you be my bridesmaid” boxes on the bee, with lots of personalized goodies inside, and pictures of the two of you together. Why not send something like that, but instead of asking them to be a bridesmaid, just make it more of a “thank you for being such an amazing friend” type of theme? You could even include a little note thanking them for supporting your decision to only have family at your wedding, and letting them know how much their friendship means to you at this exciting time in your life… or somethign like that. 😉 I may actually do something like this myself, as i’ve decided not to have BMs at our ceremony. Good luck!
Post # 6
My coach and his wife decided on not having a bridal party at their wedding. She wanted to do something special for the friends she would have chosen as bridesmaids if they did have a bridal party. So she prepared this DIY personalized hangers with the wires in very pretty colors mounted in black wood. And the hangers had her friends names.
Something like this. Everybody loved them.
Post # 7
@NorthCoastLife: You could take them out to lunch or to a spa day.
Post # 8
@NorthCoastLife: Following/bumping for ideas. I’m brainstorming about asking them to wear same-colored dresses (black, something they all already have) and being in all the formal pics with us. Being “in” on the pre-wedding parties and giving small gifts. Really the only difference would be them standing up in the front while we recite our vows at that point…
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2014 - Church and University
I’m doing the exact same thing. My three bridesmaids are my daughter and two stepdaughters-to-be. I have FIVE girlfriends who have been major sources of support throughout the years, but we wanted to keep the attendants all family (my son is my FI’s only groomsman). That said, those five are my “Bridal Brigade”. Because my BM’s are not old enough, my Bridal Brigade threw me a shower and are planning a bachelorette (so sweet considering this is the 2nd time around). I told them they didn’t have to buy dresses but they decided AMONGST THEMSELVES to all wear gold dresses to match my theme. I’ve bought them pashminas and am getting them corsages on the day-of as thank yous and to make them stand out a little as VIPs.
They are AWESOME.
Post # 10
@Nay1976: Corsages are a great idea!