(Closed) How to include 2 “not so close” sisters?

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2009

How about readers? 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I second readers.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I was going to say readers as well!  You could also have them light the candles/unity candles at the front of church before the ceremony starts

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

To avoid the drama involved, I chose not to make my sisters BMs.  Instead I made my oldest sister a reader.  My other two sisters (one older and one younger than me) have both been invited to my nail appointment (I offered to pay for theirs), the hair/makeup appointments (I offered to pay for this too), and to get dressed with me in the bridal room.  I think there are other things that might work as well, too, like giving a toast at the wedding or rehearsal dinner or asking them to escort grandparents/parents/readers/etc… down the aisle before the processional actually begins.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I was going to suggest letting them do readings, but is there any other job you think they would be satisfied with? 

Maybe they could each have completely seperate responsibilities (to keep the one that would mess up on purpose away from a job like that)

Also – anything that they do with you before the actual ceremony is special.  Maybe just having them there during the getting ready stuff is enough?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

lol, Miss Golden, that’s why only my oldest sister is a reader!  I love my sisters but they are definitely hard to handle sometimes.  I just wanted to completely eliminate them from any responsibilities just in case they decided to start some drama on the day of the wedding.  Besides inviting them to appointments and to get ready with me the day of, I am also having them escort my grandma down the aisle before the actual procession starts.  Just a thought on how to include them in the ceremony without actually giving them anything they can mess up (unless they want to piss off my grandma!).

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think Mrs. Spring is right on. I mean, who wants to piss off their grandmother?!?!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Could you ask them if they would like to be bridesmaids, but not actually ask them to do any bridesmaid work? Like, wearing the dress and standing up there is their only obligation?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I actually don’t like the idea of giving people readings just ’cause you want them to be included…

Maybe as ushers?  Or just include them in the bridesmaid activities (inviting them to parties, etc) and get them a corsage or small bouquet the day of?  Listing them in the program?

Post # 13
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Helper bee

What about greeters? I’m not sure if they’d be "happy" people but you could have them hand out programs or something at the ceremony. Or if you’re having a church service with communion, you could have them bring up the gifts. Maybe you could put them in charge of food the day of the wedding for the wedding party, like bring stuff to the appointments, and then have them drive your car to the reception?

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