(Closed) How to include a father who has passed?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Honey bee

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marielala:  Small, charm sized pic of him to wrap around your bouquet

Reserving a seat in his honor

Include some kind words about him in your program

 

Also, sorry for your loss.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

SO is using a pocket square from his mom’s favorite store in her favorite color. Did he have a favortie something that you could incorporate?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

You could tie his wedding band onto your bouquet or attach a charm/locket with a photo of him.

I also think it’s really sweet when couples pause at the begining of the ceremony to light  a candle for their close family members who have passed away. 

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Im sorry 😢 I’m following bc my fiance’s father passed 3 months before our upcoming wedding (August 8).  I saw an idea to use an old tie as a bouquet wrap.  We’re having his favorite drink as our signature drink at our reception (named after him).  During dinner at our reception we’ll be playing mostly his favorite music artists and songs that remind us of him (luckily he had great classy taste in music).  I’m also going to see if our church will allow me to have a candle at the altar in honor of him.  The candle would have the Irish wedding prayer and a shamrock on it (he was very Irish and very proud).  I’m trying to do subtle things that wont make anyone cry On a day that is supposed to be so happy.  

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

I absolutely adore the clothing idea and wish I would have read about it before my wedding!

I had a picture of my dad in a locket on my bouquet, so in some way he was with me on my walk down the aisle.

And this is really unique, but I buried him with 1/2 of a healing crystal and keep the other half with me, in a beautiful metal box. We used the box with the crystal inside for our ring warming ceremony. Our officiant also found tasteful ways to weave how much he loved both of us into our ceremony.

He had also given me a copy of the Velveteen Rabbit, so we did the “What is real?” reading from that during our ceremony as well.  

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m sorry for your loss bee. My dad passed in 2008. Another bee told me about this etsy shop, if you can maybe find something with your dad’s handwriting on it. I’m getting a keychain made for Fiance (his dad also has passed away) and either a keychain to tie to my bouquet with his picture, or I’m going to get a bracelet. 

Or if you can’t find a piece of your dad’s clothing, get a piece in his favorite colour, or to be your something blue and embroider his name or initials or something on it. 

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Newbee

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marielala:  So sorry for your loss! My dad also passed away a little over eight years ago. When I got married, I had a heart shaped locket with a picture of the two of us and a charm that said “dad” attached to my bouquet. I found it on Etsy. We also remembered him in the petitions (Catholic ceremony) and included a note of remembrance in our ceremony program.

I didn’t see this until a few months after our wedding, but I was watching the show Four Weddings, and one of the brides on there had also lost her dad. During the reception, she got on the mic and asked all of her guests to join her in dancing to her dad’s favorite song. I feel like that would have been a fun way to celebrate and remember my dad on our wedding day, had I watched the episode in time!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I am for doing as many things as you like, such as the heart-shaped fabric from Dad’s shirt, the locket, the charm with his picture. Also playing his favorite song, having a favorite food. And a mention in the program if there is one.

But I don’t like the empty-chair scenario, or the memorial table. Everyone who knew the departed will remember him. But a lot of the guests never met him and it seems ignorant to have people saying “who’s that?” about Dad at the wedding.

So I like to keep remembrances private.

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2015

My dad just passed away last month and we are getting married in November. We had so much planned with him involved so we are now going back to re-plan some pieces. I am going to walk down the aisle by myself but have a photo of him attached to my bouquet. I am also going to put a note in the program. At the bottom of our invitations, we wrote “With blessings from the late Mr. ____”. Also, for the father daughter dance, we are going to play the song we were going to dance to and invite all fathers and daughters present to the dance floor to share a dance in honor of my dad. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee

My husband’s dad passed away when he was just 2.  Although he has no memory of his dad, we wanted to incorporate his memory into our wedding so we made a video of us as kids growing up and it included photos of my husband and his dad before he died. At the end of the video, there was a dedication to him that spoke of his love and zest for life and family.  This made my Mother-In-Law very happy and also everyone at our wedding who knew him.  Although you can’t physically hold or have this with you on your wedding day, I agree with other bees about having a photo of your dad or something of his to hold with your bouquet.  That is a lovely idea!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

we are have a table with a picture of my dad my husbands dad, and my nanny and papa with a candle for each of them that a member of our family will light in honor of them

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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kimberlypaige28:  My dad passed in February, 3 weeks before our original date. We are now getting married next month. So hard to lose dads during such a special time.

I love your idea of the father-daughter dance at the wedding. I may have to borrow that idea. 

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