Post # 1
Both of my parents are remarried, and I am close to both my father and my stepfather. Do you have any suggestions about how to handle the father/daughter dance? Is it weird to have my stepfather cut in, and does my dad just go back to his seat (his wife/my stepmother cannot attend because of health reasons)?
I definitely want to incorporate both fathers. My dad is walking me down the aisle. I’m thinking of asking my stepfather to make the toast because he is a little more outgoing and gregarious, but I want to check with my dad first that he doesn’t really want to make the toast himself (my stepfather is very respectful of my relationship with my dad and is willing to do/not do whatever). If my stepfather makes the toast, should I still have him cut in on the dance? What if I asked my dad to say grace before dinner?
I’m kind of confused about all this and would appreciate any feedback! Thanks!
Post # 3
Could you pick a long song for the father/daughter dance, and then have step-father cut in? I think that’d be a really nice gesture.
Post # 4
I think my dad’s gonna walk me down the isle, and then my stepdad will be waiting for me at the end, and I’ll hug him or something like that, before my stepdad passes me on to Fiance.
Post # 5
Have two father-daughter dances! Everyone will understand and like that you are honoring them both; I think that cutting in is kind of a harsh symbol. You could even make them short-ish dances, and they each get their own song that way.
Post # 6
I second hopewell. Two dances = no drama. Everyone get’s their moment. 🙂
Post # 7
You can definitely have them each give a toast if they want. I’m having at least 6 toasts at my wedding. Whoever wants to give one can, but I’m limiting them to like 90 seconds each.
I’d say if you want to do the cut-in thing for the dance, you should start with your step-father and then your dad can cut in to finish the song.
Post # 8
I would go with two toasts; two dances. Why not.
Post # 9
I agree with two dances, two separate and meaningful songs. People are sure to understand, this isn’t the 50’s! Honor them both!
Post # 10
I’ve always LOVED how Mrs. Espresso did the walk down the aisle with her two dads: http://www.weddingbee.com/2009/09/14/weekend-mountain-wedding-a-walk-beneath-the-pines/
And I think it would be totally okay to do 2 dances and 2 toasts. Or you could even pick a song you love and you can start with one dad and the other can cut in during the midddle of it?
Post # 11
I think that two songs is a good idea…or one really long song…it might get a little long if you do two father-daughter dances then everything else! I am kind of in the situation…but my stepdad is a lot more a part of my life then my real dad…so im more worried about stepping on his toes then my real dads! you are very lucky to have both of them in your lives like you do 🙂