(Closed) How to include bride's brother in wedding party.

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: How to include Brides brother in wedding
    Include him by getting him to do a reading or something, but not in bridal party. : (7 votes)
    22 %
    Have him as GM and have 3 GM and 2 BM : (19 votes)
    59 %
    Have him as GM and his partner as BM : (6 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    can he be an usher?

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    You can have uneven sides for the bridal party, no worries.  I wouldn’t ask the Girlfriend to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man unless you were close to her.

    Post # 6
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    i think asking him to be an usher would be nice.

    ushers help people find a spot or hand out programs by the door

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @EmmaSheree:  I’d put your brother as an usher, or have him do a reading? An usher just basically guides everyone to their seats. It’s completely up to you, but I wouldn’t chuck him in the bridal party – and definitely not have his gf as one of your bridesmaids if you’re not close to her.

    I’m lucky in that respect, by brother is walking me down the aisle! 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Why not make him a bridesman?  The idea that you can only have attendants of your own gender is very out of date these days.  You can have those closest to you, regardless of gender.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I wouldn’t make him an usher, I don’t think it is necessary to designate a person to tell people where to sit.  If you want to include him in the wedding party, make him a bridesman or man of honour.  I wouldn’t include the girlfriend, you aren’t close friends with her and what if they end their relationship in the future and she is in all your wedding photos?

    Is your father walking you down the aisle?  If so your brother could walk your mother down the aisle.

    Post # 10
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If you are close with your brother, it makes sense to include him in the most special way possible, which would be a groomsman. (Think: When he gets married, would you be a bridesmaid?) And having an uneven bridal party honestly does not matter! Don’t feel the need to include someone like your brother’s girlfriend just for numbers sake. Your girls are your girls!!

    Good luck!

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    Post # 11
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I am in the same situation!  I wanted my brother to be a groomsman too but have decided to have him as an usher instead since I can’t pick my fiance’s groomsmen for him! 🙂 

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @EmmaSheree:  What’s the problem with him doing a reading? That’s what Kate Middleton’s brother did. (And the other way around, what I did at my brother’s wedding). Usher is fine too. He can still be in the family photos. He won’t be all matchy matchy with the groomsmen but I don’t see why he should be.

    Otherwise, if you’re going to make your brother a Groomsmen, it makes sense to have his partner as a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I mean, why leave him partnerless when he has a real life partner who’s practically family? I don’t think the fact that she doesn’t know your friends matters. The BMs don’t need to meet as a group often at all. (In fact really only for the wedding and maybe the hens’ night).

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee

    Can’t you just have your brother escort your mother down the aisle? 

    Or another special woman in the processional?  That way he’s in the processional and the program, but not necessarily standing up as a groomsman.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @LALaw:  @pixiecat:  Apart from the father walking the bride, parents don’t usually (if ever) walk down the aisle in Australian weddings. Of course OP can start a trend if she wants!

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    My brother is our usher and his gf is my Bridesmaid or Best Man but,we went to college together and she is like a sister to me.

    Post # 16
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I don’t think it really matters if you got 3 Groomsmen and 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man….I’ve got 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 7 GM!!! 

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