(Closed) How to include FI's stepmom?

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

My mothers have all decided to wear a deeper shade of the BMs dress to stand out. I told them they could wear whatever they wanted but they wanted to feel apart of the wedding. Maybe she could do that. Buy her jewelry that similar to your so for example, my mum will be wearing pearls like me. 

I think your FI could include both in the dance. Some people got a male relative to dance with step-mum and then at the end FI gives both mums a hug. There are step-mum songs out there, you could have one step in half way through the song

Post # 4
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The father/daughter or mother/son dance, imho, should reflect the parent who really raised the kid.  Helping with the wedding is nice, but if your fiance lived with his mom while growing up, I can see why mom would be miffed. In effect you would be equating raising kid with, for 20 years or so with the wedding.   That to me borders on Bridezilla, saying that the WEDDING  takes precedence over the true family relationship.

First, you should make certain fiance makes final call. Second, you both should SMIL a nice letter after the wedding thanking her. 


Post # 5
614 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

I’m sort of in the same boat – my FSMIL hasn’t helped with planning (but no none has at this point lol) but she is the sweetest person and has always been there for me. I’m planning on writing her a sweet note and giving her a ‘mom’ necklace for the wedding to show her that I really do appreciate her and all she’s done.

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