(Closed) How to include friends who aren’t bridesmaids?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Could you have them do a reading? One of my close friends is reading in our ceremony.

Post # 4
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I wasn’t able to have my younger female cousin in the wedding, so I asked her to play guitar during the ceremony. She’s super talented, so she was excited to do that.

I also have a good friend who was upset about not being in the party, so she offered to do our makeup for the wedding, so she felt like she was a part of it.

Post # 5
5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@napabridekelsey:wow…that worked out well for you!  girl upset she wasn’t a bridesmaid so she offers to do your makeup for free!  make sure she doesn’t mess it up on purpose (jk)

Post # 6
544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Speeches during the reception are also a nice thing. 🙂

Post # 7
1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Readings, hand out programs, ushers (if you don’t have any), participation in any other part of the ceremony (e.g. we had a handfasting and needed someone to bind our hands).

Post # 8
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m having family only in our wedding party….so all my gfs are wearing red shoes (our colors are red, black, grey and white)….and we’re taking photos…..they’re all super excited about it!

Post # 9
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Could you do corsages? I think that’d be a sweet way to honor them. Or maybe ask them to dress in a color that matches your BMs, so they are like honorary bms?

Post # 10
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We are having a few of my cousins sing in our wedding. They are amazing!

We are having my Future Father-In-Law leading the prayer before dinner.

We are having another one of my cousins take care of our dog on the day of. He is our baby, and will be there for the wedding, but we really wanted someone who could help care for him and make sure he is okay when we can’t be so hands on with him. (She is so excited about it too. She just loves him.)

We are also having a few familiy and friends be ushers / hostesess for the cerimony.

Post # 12
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

One of my friends helped to “coordinate” us on our wedding day.  She helped to make sure that we didn’t forget anything, made sure that the ceremony table was set up perfectly, kept an eye on the “must-take” photo list, and clued us in on when to start walking down the aisle.  She was a huge help and I’ll forever be grateful!! 

Post # 13
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I have a lot of close female friends, but couldn’t have them all as bridesmaids, so they each had various duties (which they all told me they loved doing). I also asked them to wear any shade of purple/lilac dress so that they’d stand out as my lovely ladies–it was very obvious who the bridesmaids were and who the special ladies were.

Some of my friends did these duties:
Readings during ceremony
Handing out programs/Greeting
Lady of the Rings (she held our rings for guests to give their own personal blessings)
Violinist/Sang a song

Post # 14
11237 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d also say a reading.

Post # 15
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I would say ask them to do a reading.  Honestly for a grown adult handing out programs is not a fun way to be involved.. it’s a chore.

What I think would be really important to them is if you asked them to be with you on the morning of your wedding while you are hanging out and getting ready.  That’s a really special time.  I was lucky because I stayed in the hotel where all my guests were so ALL of my girlfriends were in and out of the suite through the morning while me and the bridesmaids were getting our hair and make up taken care of.

Post # 16
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@cbrydon:  This is the cutest thing I have ever heard! I wish I known about it before i ordered my shoes! It would have been neat to do our college or sorority colors…maybe we can do this with something else. 

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