(Closed) How to Include Future SILs in the Wedding- SOS!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Maybe you can have them do a reading or something so they feel included?  Or maybe you can just have them process in with your FI’s parents at the beginning of the mass to recognize them?  Perhaps they could escort your FI’s grandparents?

Not sure if any of those suggestions fit the type of ceremony you are having but hopefully it helps a little!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

And you’re from Scranton??  My Fiance and I went to college at Marywood University and his family all lives up in the Wyoming Valley area!!  What a small world =)

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Maybe you can have them be your attendants and help you out on your wedding day? You can also have them pass out programs or read something in your ceremony. 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

How old are his sisters?  Since they are quiet, something like handing out the programs or working the guest book could be ok if you don’t think its too impersonal.  I had that problem with my brothers and I made them ushers… i wish there was a female equivalent.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@RaeTRud: I’m back in NJ now where my family lives.  My Fiance moved here after he finished grad school so we live up in northern Jersey now right on the border of NY.

I definitely agree with the others about having them usher or hand out programs since you aren’t having readings.  Great ideas =)

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I have two future sister in laws, and although they are nice people and I get along with them, they’re just not close enough to me for me to hve them be bridesmaids.  I have 5- my own sisters and my 3 closest friends.  Fiance chose not to have them in his side of the party (he has 4 guys and 1 girl- his cousin).  So, instead, we chose to make them ushers.  Hey, we’re already having a groomswoman, why can’t we have female ushers?  Though, it worked out in our situation because there are two of them.  Might be a bit more difficult with three.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you are buying coursages for the moms, then perhaps buying them for the sisters too would make them feel special too?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

i dont know if you should include them just to include them (did that make sense). perhaps you could get them customised drinking flutes for the reception that say sister of the groom, or perhaps you could get them a personalised wedding hanger with their names on it. I dont really think that they would want to be right in there if they are genuinley quiet.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I like the idea of corsages. Especially if they are very quiet people I don’t think that giving them a task is necessarily the way to go. Perhaps they’s be happier just having ‘guest’ responsibilities. I have been known to be shy and I know I would!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@RaeTRud: The corsages are a good idea. I would name them as hostesses

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I love the corsage idea!  Also the idea about escorting grandparents down the aisle as well.  If they are quiet/shy they may not want to be an usher or hand out programs.

Good luck!

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