- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I need some help figuring out how to include my grandparents (both on the same side) in the celebration of my wedding. My grandmother had a stroke many years ago and is confined to a wheelchair, is limited to a handful of words but understands most everything you say to her. Recently her health has begun to decline. my grandfather has dementia which has been getting progressively worse, far faster than my family anticipated.
My Grammy and Poppy are the only grandparents I have ever known and I love them dearly. When I was younger and visualized my wedding, I always pictured the two of them sitting in the front row, beaming at me with smiles of unconditional love and joy. Now it seems as though that image is an impossibility given their failing health. My Fiance and I are planning an October/November 2014 wedding near my hometown, close to my grandparents. My grandmother might be able to attend if her health is still good. There is no way my grandfather will be able to come to my wedding even if it were to happen tomorrow; he gets distressed in car rides lasting longer than 30 minutes or when around large/noisy groups of people.
My Fiance had the idea to do a “vow renewal” the day after our wedding at my grandparent’s home; we’d get dressed up in our wedding attire and have our minister perform our wedding ceremony again in front of my grandparents and a few family members. I love this concept but wanted to know if any of you Bees with similar family issues have done the same. I’m also open to any alternative ideas!