- 4 years ago
I have a unique family situation that has made planning my wedding difficult. I have two sisters with whom I share one parent (I share a mom with one and dad with the other). They are half-sisters technically but they’re the only sisters I have, so to me they are just sisters. Anyway, they are both older than me (by 7 and 10 years) and so we didn’t “grow up” together. One is very troubled and we had been estranged for years before very recently when we started talking a little – a very little. She is very socially challenged, financially strapped and has a terrible relationship with our parents (who are hosting our wedding on their property) and refuses to see or talk to them, but has a greed to make an exception for my wedding. Umm…thanks? My relationship with my other sister is better, but we are not super close and when she was married several years ago she did not ask me to be in her wedding because our other sister is so difficult and she didn’t feel she could ask me to stand up with her and leave our sister out (who didn’t even attend the wedding). I was a little hurt but understood and handled it. No big deal.
OK. The issue: I feel badly. I’ve found ways to include everyone close to me in my wedding day in a special way (friends doing readings, nieces and nephews as greeters/flower children/ring bearer/ring “guardian” during our ring warming, I’m toasting my mom) except my SISTERS!
I very badly want to include them but my one sister being so difficult makes it feel impossible. I’d like to recognize them in a meaningful way, not as standing by the gift table of guest book but I’m totally out of ideas – I’ve been struggling with this for months.
Anyway, I know this is a weird situation but if anyone can come up with nice ideas for how my sisters can be a part of my wedding I would be super grateful.