Post # 1
I’m getting married next June to the love of my life 🙂 We’ve been together for 9 1/2 years (talk about a long engagement!) and we have 2 beautiful sons together who are 8 & 5 🙂
I recently watched an episode of Four Weddings on TLC where the bride and groom included their daughter in their ceremony by having her say vows and them saying vows to her. I would love to include our sons in our ceremony but I’m not sure how they will be with speaking in front of our guests.
Has anyone ever done this? If they aren’t comfortable with speaking, does anyone have any ideas how we can include them?
Thank you so much for reading!
Post # 2
Have you asked them what they’d like to do? Since they are 8 & 5, they might have some preference or idea.
If they don’t feel like speaking, they could both walk you down the aisle.
Post # 3
Stephie22: They could fill traditional roles such as ring bearer(s) or page(s).
Having children partipate in vows is most often done in a step-parent situation where the new parent vows to always treat the children as if they were their own children. If you want to do something like that you can always phrase the vows so the children only have to respond with a word or two.
If they dont want to speak, you can have them hold up a cute sign-“Me Too” or “what they said”.
Post # 4
While my boys are older than yours I really wanted to include them as well. Since they are older I didn’t even look at the idea of them saying vows. What i am doing is having them “help” give me away. My mom and dad will start with me then I will have my boys join in so that toward the end we are all walking together. I hope that makes sense.
Post # 5
My stepson will be a junior groomsman at our wedding, and he’ll be 8 years old. We’ll still have 3 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen,, and he’ll be a bonus.
My FI asked me who my stepson will walk down the aisle with, and I thought it would be really cute to have him stand up there with his father from the start… you know, since I’m pretty much marrying both of them 😉 I think we’ll place him just behind his father and next to the best man (or slightly in between and staggered in front).
The other idea I had was that he walks down with me and my father, which I would love, as well, but I like the idea of me walking to meet both of them at the front since they’re a package deal 😉
Post # 6
Stephie22: My son was 5 when we got married. My dad walked me down the aisle- but so did my son. And he was the official ring bearer- we actually let him hold onto the rings and give them to us during the ceremony. I don’t know that he would have wanted to speak in front of people, so it wasn’t an option for us. But he enjoyed being part of the ceremony, and I love that he walked down the aisle with me!
Post # 7
Thank you so much! These are all great responses! I’m in no way planning to force them into anything…if they don’t want to speak, that’s ok! I don’t think we’re going to have flower girls, so I was also thinking about having the boys carry a sign I found on Etsy that says “Daddy, here comes our girl”! It’s adorable, wooden (which matches the theme for our rustic wedding!), and includes them as well 🙂
Thank you guys so much for your input!