(Closed) How to include special people who aren’t in wedding party?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

He shouldn’t feel obligated to have a third Groomsmen if he doesn’t want one. Even if you decide to go ahead and ask him to be a Groomsmen..you don’t have to ask another lady. I like symmetry, but wouldn’t want to be forced to randomly ask someone.

 I have a good friend that is throwing my Bachelorette/Lingerie Party and she isn’t in the Wedding Party. I am just going to give her a special gift like all the ladies who are hosting parties for me. How about he just give him a nice gift and call it a day?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Can you ask him to do a reading?

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Littlerattie: we are asking one of our special people to be the MC.. is that an option?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it would be a good idea to have them involved with readings. I think asking them to help organize the reception would be more of a hassle to them than an honor.

Maybe you could ask them to be incharge or the bubbles/flower petals/ rice/ confetti or whatever is thrown/blown at you when you are departing?

Good luck!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Glad that we could help. That’s what we’re here for 🙂

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

What about asking them to be ushers? I think that would be a very nice and appropriate gesture.

Post # 10
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Worker bee

I love the idea of the reading!! 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think I’m going to get boutineers (spelling) or corsages for the “special people.” I am only having three bridesmaids, but have a group of 6 other girls that are really important to me, plus my sisters…

I know traditionally its considered an honor to give a reading, man the guestbook, or pass out bubbles.. But I’ve done it before, and it feels more like punishment. So I’m sticking to flowers. I’ll also make sure to include them in some professional group shots.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had readings done by his sibling and my Brother-In-Law, which weren’t part of our bridal party.  Hubby’s little bro was our “head usher” even though we only had one, just so he could get a special title and hand out programs.  We also designed MC to a friend. this way everyone has a special party without necessarily being part of the wedding party.

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