Post # 1
My FI’s little sister will be 16 when we get married. I recently asked all of my bridesmaids, including FI’s other sister (who I am very close to), and I think she might feel a bit left out. We both have known since the start that we also want to include his younger sister, but we need ideas!
How would you include a 16 year old sibling?
Post # 3
They can be ring security =)
Or junior bridesmaids.
Post # 4
Bridesmaid. My oldest niece is 12 and one of our bridesmaids.
Post # 5
My little sister is 13 and she is one of my bridesmaids, I would feel badly not including her as a big part of our day. She has actually been more helpful than many of my other bridesmaids 😉 I would maybe consider making your sister a part of your bridal party. Of course there will be some activities she will not be able to participate in (bachelorette party!) but there will be many more wedding related things she can help out with. To me 16 does not seem too young to be a bridesmaid, but does seem a little too old to be a “junior” bridesmaid.
Post # 6
I think ask her to be a bridesmaid, 16 is not too young for that. If you don’t want to add a bridesmaid, ask her to do a reading or hand out programs.
Post # 7
I made mine a bridesmaid.
Post # 8
Bridesmaid, or if you don’t want to add another, I’d ask her to do a reading.
Post # 9
we are thinking that bridesmaid/jr bridesmaid might be the best wasy to include her. But we are unsure if she’ll feel like it’s just a “title” to include her verses us really wanting her in the wedding (of course, the latter is true).
I would love it if she would do a reading, but we haven’t asked her if she would be comfortable with that. Currently, at 14, she is so shy! But so much changes by the time a young lady is 16. We have time to figure it out 🙂
Thank you all for your comments/suggestions!
Post # 10
You have a long time and actually picking your bridal party now, may just cause you to wish you didn’t ask certain people. I think a bridesmaid is best for a 16 yr old, and think calling her a jr Bridesmaid or Best Man might seem even more fake to her.
Post # 11
I vote bridesmaid too! I have been a bridesmaid at 14 and then again at 17.
Post # 14
@drummerbride: just curious, within what time frame do you think it is best to ask? I have always been asked shortly after an engagement so I assumed I should do the same!
The bridesmaids that I chose are all long time friends and/or family members so I doubt my feelings will change 🙂
Post # 15
The reason I am leaning towards Junior Bridesmaid is because she already knows I asked her sister, I feel like she might think that she was added last minute. I would never want to feel like she was an “add on”. Fiance and I have been trying to think of a unique way to include her in the wedding since we got engaged and only recently thought of a Jr. bridesmaid.
FI’s mom thinks Jr. Bridesmaid would be best – I think that means I have my answer 😉
Post # 16
If you plan to include her as a bridesmaid, at 16, she should be just that. I think it would make her feel like a child or preteen to be called a junior bridemaid. Just some food for thought.
I would ask anytime between now and a year out. I already asked my sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I don’t think there’s a rule as to when you should ask, just do it when the timing feels right.