(Closed) How to indicate casual (but not encourage shorts and flip flops)?

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Adults can figure out how to dress. Is your venue a casual space like a park? People will dress casually. If it’s more upscale, they will dress nicer. I wouldn’t say anything to anyone unless they ask. Aren’t you able to decide for yourself how to dress for occasions? People can figure it out.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

You can say daytime semi formal, I think?

hahahaha but I said by word of mouth almost word for word what you just said and them found out yesterday my dad interpreted that as casual and was planning on walking me down the aisle in jeans ?!?! Dad, no!!! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I’ve seen dressy casual used to describe that. You’d think people would have common sense to not show up in tank tops and shorts but you’re right, you never know.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

In my circles, we’ve described that as “business casual” Or does that usually only apply to the work place? 

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littlecats :   I feel your pain; my Fiance told relatives they could wear whatever they want before I could stop him. *head desk* Ah well, I’m not going to worry about it. The VIPs will be dressed nicely for our pics, that’s good enough for me.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I know it’s not the official term, but your dress code reminds me of dressing up/down for Sunday brunch. I guess you would call this smart casual.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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kayt2 :  I looked up smart casual (just like I would do if I saw it on an invite) and many sites showed jeans and shorts so if you aren’t okay with that, I would avoid that. My company uses this dress code for events where we don’t have to wear our normal work outfits but they don’t want us showing up in t-shirts.

I personally wouldn’t put anything on the invite. I tend to try to look up “dress codes” and end up even more confused about what to wear. Let the invite and location speak to the formality of the wedding.

Post # 8
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Honey bee

Unless you have an extremely casual (and possibly inept) group of acquaintainces, no one I know would show up in swimwear.  People understand the difference between a wedding and a pool party.  Have you ever shown up to a wedding in a swimsuit or have to be told not to?  And even if you have one inept person who does, your officiant will still let you get married. 

People can figure it out based on location and formality of the invite.  Formal wording, letterpress, hand-addressed with calligraphy, after 6pm, country club or expenseive venue – I can figure out on my own to wear a formal long gown.  Daytime, outdoors or budget venue, less fancy or more informal wording on the invitations – I can figure out that a sundress or any other clothing I would wear to an ordinary Sunday church service will be just fine.  People have been dressing themselves without assistance for most of their lives.  They got this or they’ll ask.  Those made up dress codes are basically meaningless and more confusing.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I wouldn’t say anything at all. it’s been my experience these days that some folks wear casual clothing no matter what you say. Do this one by word of mouth.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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kayt2 :  how about “relaxed cocktail attire”?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I went with “festive” which will probably confuse some people. haha. But I included a note on the website saying that we expect hot weather and to please dress comfortably for that.

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