Post # 1
As we and a majority of our guests live in southern california and our wedding is in the summer and outdoors, we would like to indicate on the details card that it is okay for our guests to dress relatively casual. It will be warm, so we want our guests to be comfortable (men don’t have to wear suits unless they want to, I don’t want women to feel like they have to buy a fancy/uncomfortable dress). I am hesitant with putting “casual” because I am afraid a few guests may take that as permission to wear swim shorts, tank tops, and flip flops. We’re thinking women guests can wear flats/heels with a comfy cotton dress (something you could get at Old Navy) and men can wear light, comfortable slacks/khaki pants with an airy/comfortable button up short sleeve shirt. People are more than welcome to dress fancier, but we want people to know that we’re encouraging them to dress in something that is comfortable. We would rather our guests have a good time and feel comfortable in what they’re wearing than have an “okay” time because they’re hot or itchy or feel goofy in something fancy.
Should I say something on the details card? If so, what should I say?
Should I just not say anything about attire and hope it spreads by word of mouth?
Post # 2
Adults can figure out how to dress. Is your venue a casual space like a park? People will dress casually. If it’s more upscale, they will dress nicer. I wouldn’t say anything to anyone unless they ask. Aren’t you able to decide for yourself how to dress for occasions? People can figure it out.
Post # 3
You can say daytime semi formal, I think?
hahahaha but I said by word of mouth almost word for word what you just said and them found out yesterday my dad interpreted that as casual and was planning on walking me down the aisle in jeans ?!?! Dad, no!!! 😂😂😂😂
Post # 4
I’ve seen dressy casual used to describe that. You’d think people would have common sense to not show up in tank tops and shorts but you’re right, you never know.
Post # 5
In my circles, we’ve described that as “business casual” Or does that usually only apply to the work place?
I feel your pain; my Fiance told relatives they could wear whatever they want before I could stop him. *head desk* Ah well, I’m not going to worry about it. The VIPs will be dressed nicely for our pics, that’s good enough for me.
Post # 6
I know it’s not the official term, but your dress code reminds me of dressing up/down for Sunday brunch. I guess you would call this smart casual.
Post # 7
I looked up smart casual (just like I would do if I saw it on an invite) and many sites showed jeans and shorts so if you aren’t okay with that, I would avoid that. My company uses this dress code for events where we don’t have to wear our normal work outfits but they don’t want us showing up in t-shirts.
I personally wouldn’t put anything on the invite. I tend to try to look up “dress codes” and end up even more confused about what to wear. Let the invite and location speak to the formality of the wedding.
Post # 8
Unless you have an extremely casual (and possibly inept) group of acquaintainces, no one I know would show up in swimwear. People understand the difference between a wedding and a pool party. Have you ever shown up to a wedding in a swimsuit or have to be told not to? And even if you have one inept person who does, your officiant will still let you get married.
People can figure it out based on location and formality of the invite. Formal wording, letterpress, hand-addressed with calligraphy, after 6pm, country club or expenseive venue – I can figure out on my own to wear a formal long gown. Daytime, outdoors or budget venue, less fancy or more informal wording on the invitations – I can figure out that a sundress or any other clothing I would wear to an ordinary Sunday church service will be just fine. People have been dressing themselves without assistance for most of their lives. They got this or they’ll ask. Those made up dress codes are basically meaningless and more confusing.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t say anything at all. it’s been my experience these days that some folks wear casual clothing no matter what you say. Do this one by word of mouth.
Post # 10
how about “relaxed cocktail attire”?
Post # 11
I went with “festive” which will probably confuse some people. haha. But I included a note on the website saying that we expect hot weather and to please dress comfortably for that.