(Closed) How to indicate “no lingerie” for the shower???

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Are you having invitations mailed?  If so, perhaps you could put at the bottom in a font a bit smaller than the rest:

*Per the bride’s request…no lingerie please.

Or something of that nature.  But in all honesty, all of the showers I’ve ever been to, lingerie really wasn’t popular…nor gift cards to VS.  Maybe one piece was given as  gift but that was really it.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ughh I don’t want any either. I’ll pick it out myself THANK YOU. I’m going to think about doing this as well!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m with the other ladies – I have NEVER heard of this being a popular shower present.  Showers are for registry gifts.  If someone was to get lingerie, it is typically given at a bachelorette party.  I wouldn’t worry about it.  If for some reason, this is normal with your family/ friends to give, you could put on the invitation where you are registered (albeit, this is quite crass to do). 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Actually, lingere is a common shower gift in some circles. My mom (and apparently most of her friends) prefer to give “personal gifts” at showers–not necessarily lingere (though it could be), but sometimes pjs or other things that are for the bride, and not so much gifts for the house. My mom seemed to think I was crazy when I suggested we get a registry gift for a shower we were attending together once.

Sorry, no advice on the problem, just wanted to say I know where you’re coming from

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Have you talked to your mother or Maid/Matron of Honor about just telling people when they RSVP? Instead of women mailing in a yes or no, make sure they have to call and let the person responsible for setting up the party let the guests know that lingerie wouldn’t be an appropriate choice for this shower. A lot of people would probably be asking questions then anyway.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I would talk to the host of the shower and let them know you don’t want those type items.  Have them do a theme shower. There are stock the bar showers, kitchen showers, pantry showers, around the clock, his and hers.  Have them title the shower on the invitations so that people know what type of gifts to bring.

The Stock the bar people get you your wine glasses, martini glasses etc. or bring a nice bottle of wine to “stock” your bar.

The kitchen shower- people bring you kitchen gadgets, receipes, etc.

The pantry shower- they bring you pantry items, food and shelving items

The around the clock- each guest is given a time of the day to bring an item.  For instance one guest gets 7am.  They would bring a coffee maker. Or 7pm they would bring something for cooking dinner

His and hers- Couples shower and thus people bring items that are for him or her.  Such as tools for the garage or kitchen gadgets.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If you really have a concern that people will do this, only you will know for sure since you know them – I think Vintage2010’s idea is great.  There are invitations that match this and this would ensure (in a tasteful way) that you don’t receive lingerie.

I guess different strokes for different folks.  My mother and female family members would NEVER give anything other than a registry gift at a shower, but that is our family tradition and how our friends think as well.  So I think only you know for sure if this really will be an issue.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve heard of lingerie showers, but it’s unusual for what I know to get lingerie otherwise.  I think you will have to rely on word of mouth for this one.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

the last two showers (included my own) the bride got lingerie! my friend’s mom bought her some, and my fmil was nice enough to give me mine, but it was actually super cute and has now saved me money and a shopping trip so i’m ok with it.

i agree with making it a themed shower, that could be a good way to steer people away from that kind of gift (although if it’s a gift certificate you could always get a cute pair of pajama pants or some lotions). i went to a shower once that gave everyone a different part of the house… linen closet, bathroom, bedroom. just be careful who you give the bedroom to!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’d just put a little note at the bottom of the invitation…

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I went to a shower and on the bottom of the invitation was this:

“Sarah is registered at Macy’s and Target.  Please bring a gift appropriate for a new housewife setting up a house.”  I’m not sure if that was exact but something along those lines.

All showers I have been to, lingerie was given as a gift except this one. Yes, and themed showers can help with this.  The theme for the above one was 50’s housewife.  For my sister’s we went with “time” and I gave everyone a “time” themed present to bring.  For those that you assign bedroom time, you can tell them no lingerie please.

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