- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
Okay, I have two dilemmas. We’re planning a really small beach wedding in Maui; only our parents, his siblings, and our two best friends are going to be invited.
Reading other posts on here, I’ve come to the conclusion that engagement announcements are probably a bad call. I don’t want people to assume they’ll be invited to the wedding. I also don’t want people to think we’re making a grab for gifts; we’re not. Frankly, we have everything we need.
In order to make our extended family and friends feel more included in the wedding, there are a couple things we’d like to do. First and foremost, we’d like to set up a wedding website. Second, I’m also going to be making a vintage brooch bouquet, but with a twist. I’m asking extended friends and family to send me a brooch that will then be included in the bouquet. This way, they’re part of the ceremony even if they can’t be there in person.
So, here are my first two questions. But since engagement announcements are out, what’s the best way to go about getting word out about the website, and the brooch bouquet? Some people can be alerted through word-of-mouth, but what about those who fall outside immediate family?
My second question centers on the issue of registering for gifts. While extended family and friends aren’t going to be invited to the wedding itself, we are planning on having a simple reception dinner in Colorado (where a large chunk of our friends and family live), and another in Kansas (where my family, and an even larger chunk of friends) live.
Because we’re having these receptions, we’re vaguely entertaining the idea of registering for honeymoon donations. We don’t need household items; as i mentioned above we already have everything we need. I’m honestly not planning on even including the registry information on the wedding announcements after we get married. I was just going to quietly link up to it on our wedding website, and let people do whatever they want with it. Were we not doing a couple reception dinners when we get back from our honeymoon, I wouldn’t even consider registering. But I’m thinking it might be okay to do since we’re going to be having those dinners. Am I wrong about that, or do you all agree? I’m trying to get a sense of what would offend people the least.
Thanks for your help!!!