Post # 16
arathella: My Fiance and I are polyamourous, sometimes we have a female in our relationship. We don’t at the moment, however I would expect that if I were out of town for something she would accompany him to an event and vice versa. But I always expect that the invites be addressed to the two of us since we are the serious, long term relationship.
Post # 17
Option 1) Invite all 3 by name, 2) Girl Name + Guest, 3) Ask her what she’d prefer
ps: awesome. i’m approvingly intrigued by nonconformist relationships.
Post # 18
arathella: If I didn’t want to call and ask, I would invite all three by name. She can then choose what she wants to do. (I’m glad you posted this, though. The only poly-relationship I’ve known personally were three gay men who very much functioned as a “couple”- for lack of a better word. Poly relationships where presumably everyone is straight are a whole different ballgame.)
Post # 19
- Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!
I’d list them all by name.
Post # 20
I put ‘Friend’ + family on my baby shower invites, for a poly relationship (2 girls + 1 guy). Not sure if there’s a poper etiquitte for that (just yet) but ask her! Say ‘hey I’m not sure how to address you guys. What do you prefer?’ – she might appreciate the acknowledgement.
Post # 21
I had a somewhat similar situation, where I wanted to invite a friend, her husband, and her boyfriend, but I just messaged her and asked her if she’d like me to invite her boyfriend (whom I only met once) in addition to her husband. And then she said you can invite him if you want but I don’t talk to him anymore because he screwed me over a little while ago. I felt so awful for not knowing that! So I just invited her and her husband.
Post # 22
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Post # 23
You could just put “Friend + Date(s)” since date doesn’t sound like everyone and their mother is invited. Asking for clarification is always a good idea though.
Post # 24
I am enteratined that many of the Bees who typically post on the Ettiquette threads are silent on this issue! 😉
Post # 25
I think asking is your best bet, or addressing all three by name. 🙂