(Closed) How to invite people

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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1180 posts
Bumble bee

Some people will want a date so they can plan other vacations/work etc and they’ll want you to give them an idea of cost.

I think its fair to organize that before asking people if they want to come.

Post # 4
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2979 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Even if they tell you yes now, things might change. If they tell you no now, things might change.

If you havent even set a date yet I wouldnt worry about it until then.

Post # 5
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940 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

In my experience, getting someone to commit to a general date range is completely meaningless.

That said, we started asking people using a Google survey that we sent by email (*after* we had a date). We asked for their mailing address (necessary even before sending the STDs), how they wanted to be addressed on their envelopes (because you know one person wants the formal Mr. and Mrs. John Smith while another would be thoroughly offended that she wasn’t considered her own person), any dietary restrictions, and how likely they were to attend (probably, unsure, probably not). There may have been a couple of other questions on there too.

Post # 6
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1227 posts
Bumble bee

You can’t ask people if they would come to a wedding when you can’t give them a concrete date. You’ll really need to wait until you have a date selected to begin speaking to people.

Personally, I’m very against B-listing. I think that you should plan for the wedding that you can afford. If fewer people than that can come, then you’ll save money or can use that money to upgrade things for the guests that do come.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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haileyblue :  If you raise the idea now, the answers you receive will be unrealistic. Many people are excited and say “Of course we’ll be there”. Then when the actual invittion arrives and theuy see how much it is going to cost them to attend your wedding, reality strikes.

B Listing is a no-go zone in my book, especially for a destination wedding.

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