Post # 1
Ok, invitations went out. Looks like there is less people than I thought who are coming. Invited 200, thought about 120-150 would come, right now at about 100 are coming.
I have some roommates from college who at the time that I made my list was someone who I had to trim from my list.
How is the nicest way to ask them if they want to go and not like look like an afterthought. (Which it is… but I do want them to come now.)
Post # 3
How honest can you be with them? I last minute invited one of my mom’s friend, she did the calling and we literally told her we just want her to come and have a good time and that she’s a seat filler and to bring a date. This way it made it clear nothing was expected in return.
Post # 4
Yeah, I don’t know if I want to be that honest. 🙂
Post # 5
Humm….this happend to my sister. THe couple called and said they ahd last minute cancellations and would love for her and hubby to go and not to bring anything except themselves. My sister thought is was hysterical and they went and had a great time.
Post # 6
that happened to my friend with her roommates in college too. she explained that it’s a small wedding so she was unable to send their invites right away, however she was glad that people declined because now she is able to invite them and hopes that they will come. they called her up right when they got the email and said that they were getting their flights!
Post # 7
I suggest what flamingred and artbee said: be honest to the point that you weren’t able to invite them before when you really wanted to, but since you are able now you would love for them to attend if they can–and not to bring anything but themselves!
Post # 9
How close are you to the wedding? Some people don’t notice these things anyway- and really, some people do send invites out very close to the wedding (or am I on a lot of B lists???). Does she know any people who already got invites? If not, I say send it out- maybe include a little handwritten note saying how much you;’d like her to come. If she knows other people who got their invites a month ago, you may need to go with the honest route. And- before you send- make sure you’re ok on the guest ocunt! You won’t believe how many people send their RSVPs in late!!
Post # 10
I would think that a lot of people have an understanding of the economy and huge expense of a wedding, and thus would understand having an A list and a B list. I think honesty is the best policy and would follow a similar script as those above have posted.
I’d be delighted, if it were me, and wouldn’t care about how/when I got invited.
Post # 11
Can you just send them an invite ASAP? Maybe with a phone call to let them know it’s coming and sorry for the late notice?
Post # 12
I just sent them an invite and pretended like it wasn’t late. I don’t think they really noticed.
We also invited about 200 and are now expecting about 100. Sucks because our minimum is 150 X( Only about 30 have responded so far, so we’ll see what happens.