Post # 1
Hey there everyone,
I was wondering if anyone would be sharing their experiences? Fiance and I believe that it would be a good idea to have Future Mother-In-Law involved in wedding planning to keep peace as there has been some drama already. One issue for me however is that my family is paying for the wedding and I feel a little uncomfortable having Future Mother-In-Law making any decisions where my parents will have to pay for. Also, Future Mother-In-Law has a very specific idea of how a wedding should be and has already expressed disapproval in our idea of a first look before the wedding and especially with the idea of having a rehearsal dinner at a site different than our ceremony/reception venue (in addition to having bridal party SO’s invited even though that is what happened at her daughter’s wedding, which is a whole another issue). Fiance thinks it’s best to give her a project that won’t be all that important in the end if it doesn’t work out. At any rate, I was wondering if you had any advice of your own or any stories about your own experiences? I don’t mean to offend anyone with this post! I want to keep peace with all parties involved . Thanks so much!! Any advice is very much appreciated!
Post # 3
Flowers, maybe? Nobody gets offended by flowers, and there’s not really a way to make a fight over those! .. I think… fingers crossed for you!
Post # 4
maybe helping choose between options like on my fair wedding- none is a bad choice! Like we decided on these 6 entrees, which of them should we serve type of thing?
Post # 5
Is she good at DIY and crafting stuff? Mine is and I am having her make our cake topper. I showed her some pics of ideas and sent her off on her way. It makes her super happy too because I posed it like how I’d be so honored if she could create one for us that we could use throughout the generations.
Post # 6
I invited my Future Mother-In-Law to our tastings…she is also going to go to some dress fittings and she is planning and deciding on where the rehearsal dinner is going to be. So far that is it…but if mroe things come up where I could use her opinion I will definately ask for her input.
Post # 7
I had the same concerns. I have a wonderful Mother-In-Law who is extremely traditional and she was not shy about expressing her opinion (in the nicest way possible). Instead of asking her opinion on everything (which I often knew she would be against) – I invited her to join in on special projects. We used cute glass for the decorations so we borrowed her cut glass toasting glasses and cake stand (from her own wedding), and she even made the groommen’s ties.
By keeping her involved on confrontational projects made her feel special and let us bond. It also kept her busy so she didn’t ask too many questions about everything else!!
Post # 8
I brought my Future Mother-In-Law wedding dress shopping with my mother and my ladie so that if she had an opinion she could voice it but it was a part of a chorus of opinions.
Also, I plan on having her and my Future Sister-In-Law come over and help do invitation stuffing and such.