Post # 17
Thank you so much bees! I’ve definitely got a few ideas to play with now. 🙂 I particularly like the idea of providing some bowls for the flowers to be carried off in and having the DJ make a quick announcement. Thanks again!!
Post # 18
Some people are just so pushy and tacky, at my friends wedding we put our bouquets in small vases in front of us at the head table(like pretty much everyone does) and towards the end of the night 2 older guests were trying not only to take centerpieces but they tried to take the bride’s and my(MOH) bouquet!! it was crazy! I had to explain to them why they couldn’t have them and they were so pissed…in the end I had to grab it out of an old lady’s hand…when I told my friend(the bride) what happened she couldn’t believe it…they were from her husband’s side so she was glad I did something so she wouldn’t have to call them later and ask for it back..nuts!
My suggestion is have your MC make an announcement to leave the decorations and centerpieces where they are.
Post # 19
+1 to what @laceydoilies: suggested
I’m a wedding photographer and have been to my fair share of weddings. Typically if the certerpieces are rentals, the MC will mention it briefly in his/her kickoff of the night speech and that seems to take care of things.
Post # 20
Do you have a Dj? Have the Dj make an announcement.
Post # 22
I’ve never heard of people taking centerpieces. Is this a common thing?
Post # 23
If your mother is paying for the wedding and is wanting to “eat the cost,” you should let her. I seem to be in the minority here, but it is tacky to bring it up – especially if it is normal in your culture for guests to take home the centerpieces. It’s either insulting to the guests that you did not honor your family’s culture, or insulting to your guests that you assume they don’t know better than to steal from your wedding reception.
Now, if YOU are paying and will have to “eat the cost,” by all means take precautions, but that is what staff are for. Have your DOC notify the staff that centerpieces must stay in the building and they should be able to take care of it. Issuing a formal announcement is a little uncalled for.
Providing vases or bowls for the guests to take flowers in with a note explaining their purpose might be a good compromise.
Post # 24
@allyfally: I had no idea that guests would even THINK of taking centerpieces from a wedding….until my sister’s wedding was winding down and people started asking if they could take them or assuming they could! My mom and sister knew it would happen, but I had to actually see it to believe it I guess.
Post # 25
@EveryDayofForever: That’s good to hear! She’s very lucky to have had you. I know my BMs and SIL wouldn’t mind saying anything but I’m hoping by having my DOC step in, things will be ok.
@Minou_Bear: That’s insane! But I could totally see some of the older relatives on both sides do the same. :T Some are extremely pushy.
@allyfally: I think it’s mostly cultural. I’ve never taken centerpieces home but I have been encouraged to do so before. My parents seem to always bring one home when they’ve gone to their friends’ children’s weddings, and they’ve always told me they were encouraged to take a centerpiece.
@MlleDarcy: My parents are contributing quite a bit to the wedding which is why I talked to her about it and asked for her assistance with it. But we would ultimately be paying for those vases. You have a good point about staff stepping in and that making an announcement could be insulting. That’s what I was afraid of regardless if it’s common or not. I think I’ve definitely decided to just provide a few bowls/vases and let my DOC/staff handle anybody who tries to take anything home.
Thanks ladies! 🙂
Post # 26
To me this is odd. Maybe, it’s a regional thing but, I’ve never been to a wedding where anyone just took the centerpieces or any decor items other than the favors. Half of our tables will have a tall cylindar vase with flowers and curly willow and the other half will have these awesome trio of faux mercury glass candle holders all of which I bought myself. I think I would have a heart attak if anyone took it upon themselves to just take them!
Post # 28
@NikkiKillpretty: I know, right?? I’ve put in a lot of time into these dang things. To clarify, I don’t think anybody will take my small votives just maybe the large floral pieces.
Post # 29
@MochiBride: I’ve never witnessed this, but nothing surprises me when it comes to humans. I’m with Hyperventilate: I’d find some smartass way to say “don’t touch.”
Post # 30
@MochiBride: taking the centerpeices without permission is NOT normal to me…but I have been warned that this is normal for my FI’s family and culture (caribbean weddings)….I will no way in heck let this happen….I purchased all my centerpeices and I expect to sell all my vases to subsidize the cost not to give as gifts!! If i didn’t want to sell them I would have just rented!!
So I am going to have the MC wait till evenyone is seated and LISTENING and mention that the vases are NOT for taking home
I will also have family on the look out
and I will have the DOC and staff on the look out
I like the idea also of having the note at the bottom….maybe I will just tell ppl they are rented…some ppl find out I own them they would not likely return (rude) but if they think I don’t then most likely they would return (hoping)
As for your mom…..she doesn’t need to know anything…if that’s her attitude about it….just plan ahead. I think the best bet is to announce that they are not for take home.
Also a good plan is to give away the flowers (just the flowers) for the centerpeices near the end of the night…it may make sticky fingers second guess (I think I am planning this as well)