- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
In the title I jest … well a little bit.
I have always wanted to elope. When a wedding became a big deal, I intially said – great plan it, pay for it and I’ll show up. Well… somewhere along the way I eventually agreed to not get any of that. I was convinced that with the purchase price for my elopement package ($4000) I could have a wonderful wedding and I would have boundless help from friends, aunties, cousins, mom and sister.
So I finally agree and was even getting excited… DYI projects were springing up everywhere and all I had to do was leverage the time to get them done. Of course it turns out help from lots of not very crafty people is only so helpful… and I’m started to realize this is going to be largely my thing alone.
Add to that, the fact that $4000 budget is now $6500 because it’s painfully obvious $4000 won’t cut it and that’s with a LOT of DIY with upcycling and the whole 9 yards. The budget is all me btw because no one else can afford to contribute – except with time which is nice but not as helpful as cash to buy all the stuff required.
Anyway, a huge portion of that budget (1/3ish) I’ve set aside for photos because that’s the biggest most important part in my mind (so when you consider that remaining budget is food – everything else is pretty shoe string).
I don’t know how many hours I’ve now spent pouring through photogs around here…. but it’s a LOT. My Fiance is a photog himself so he narrowed my short list down from the technical side of things and has talked shop with them. He’s settled on one for several reasons and I really am in love too… second place is actually pretty distant second in our budget range anyway. They are a bit out of our budget generally but offered an hourly rate with no minimums on sundays so it ends up at the top ammount of the budget if we only get the important stuff… so we were moving things to a sunday to accomidate this blah blah blah. We try to set an appointment to sign the contract and she asks “what date?” we tell her what we were thinking July 2014 and that we were flexible around her and she says “Oh no, we’ve decided 2013 is our last year as wedding photographers… I’m so sorry we can’t shoot your wedding” Turns out they stopped adverts and broke time into hours because it was their last wedding season this summer. Her recommended photog starts at another $1500 above the price we had planned with her largely because of the required time commitment, might have limited dates left in 2014 already and she’s not as good imho. As we got of the phone I was pretty devastated… and then Fiance says ” Alright so we’re just going to bump the wedding to July 2013″. I stared at him trying to figure out if he was being sacastic and he picks up an this and says “What? you’re like ALMOST DONE everthing” I said something like “WTF, I’ve barely started formulating a high level plan 2 weeks ago” and he’s like “well there isn’t much left to do” ( we have a color scheme, style, possible venue and some items acquired from kijiji and such) … and I wanted to fly over the table and choke him until he was dead, revive him just so I could do it all over again. To try and back pedal he tells me to “just hire a planner” which is great and all but planners don’t pull shoestring dyi weddings outta their butts. His suggestion to not DIY was also precious… I guess he doesn’t mind offering up my savings for a stupid day but can’t be bothered to save for himself.
I’m kind of heart broken that the photog won’t do weddings in 2014, freaking angry that he’s SO totally clueless of how hard I’m working for this wedding I never friggin wanted and largely I’m probably the most upset I bought into this fallasy that the whole wedding thing isn’t what I was affraid it would turn out to be when I got talked into it. So far this is soooo much work… and stress… and I don’t even know if I want to get married anymore (which is mostly emotional and not real but still).
If it wasn’t also my door I’d leave a flaming bag of doggie do on his front step and run away… heh