(Closed) how to keep my husband from being miserable over money?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How much college do you have left and what are your respective majors?

I know that when I was stressed about money, it was because I was spending too much on incidental things.  I was not planning meals properly so I would spend too much on groceries and end up eating out anyway.  I spent too much on random things that I hadn’t calculated into my budget.  I would then become stressed when I had to pay bills.  What I did to solve that was pay my bills every time I got paid.  I paid them early, most of the time, and that helped. It meant that I did not have extra money to spend.  The other thing that helped was getting a tutoring job.  They pay very well.  That’s why I asked what your majors were.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you have no means of making additional income and can’t cut back any further than you already have, there’s not much that you can do besides just tell him that I will get better and hope that someday it actually does.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

What does teaching in the social sciences get him?  A certification to teach social studies?  He should see what add-on certifications he can get in addition to that.  Having a plan for how you will get more money in the future is helpful for calming nerves.

Are you taking classes over the summer?  The summer is a good time to pick up a bit of extra income.  You can also sell books and textbooks on Amazon.  

Have you thought of looking for better-paying jobs?   

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Ask for a raise, or find a better job. I worked at mcdonalds since i was 15 up until second year, best decision of my life was when i quit and landed at job at a hospital that paid almost double!! I’m also in my last year of majoring in social science and honestly, my degree is just going to waste or it’s just going to be something i can put on my resume since there isn’t really much i can do with it and i’m hoping to land a full-time at the hospital.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Part of what you’re going through is the pretty typical college broke-ness. I remember the days when I felt like I’d won the lottery when I found $20 in a coat pocket πŸ™‚

I have a suggestion, since I majored in social sciences education. The market out there is TOUGH for teachers with only this endorsement. I’m not sure where you’re located (I’m in Chicago), but there are very few openings and a TON of candidates. I highly suggest he pick up a second endorsement. I minored in French, and that’s what I’ve been teaching.

If he can pick up an ESL or special ed endorsement (although he should at least somewhat want to get into these disciplines), or an endorsement in another high-demand area, it will help his job prospects immensely.

I graduated near the top of my class, chaired three clubs, worked, and did research alongside grad students in the sociology department, then moved abroad to teach for two years, had glowing recs from a bunch of people; and came back and didn’t get a single interview for social studies positions, though I got quite a few for French. I also imagine that you’re probably planning on grad school (just going off of my friends in psych and the job market), so it’d be a good idea for him to strengthen his resumé a bit.

Good luck! I understand where your fiancé is coming from, money stresses me out, too!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ah, just saw that he is doing a Russian teaching minor as well. Is this offered in many schools? I work in a fantastic suburban high school that offers more languages than most, and I don’t know of a single one that offers Russian…

Edit: oops, sorry, just saw that you’re married! 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Money is always a problem.  For everyone.  Even when you have more, it still is a problem.  He needs to do some stress management to put it out of his mind.  After you make a budget and stick to it, there is not a whole lot more you can do.  My sister and her husband own several homes, but have to move every 4 years.  They cannot sell their last two!  They had to borrow money from his parents and now they rent.  Sometimes it seems the more you make, the more expenses come up.  You have to put it out of your mind once you are doing all that you can.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We make a lot more than that and my husband is the same way.  We just have to sit down, go over our budget, and prove to him that we have enough money for everything.  He keeps telling m that he’s out of money at the end of the money when in reality he’s just moved it all into our savings/investment accounts. 

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